Do I have to invite my brother?

Were you close to him when you were younger? Is it just in the past few years that you drifted a part? After all weddings are a chance for new starts. Maybe now would be a good time to get back in touch. If anything talk to your parents and ask them what they think about the situation all together. But if you really don't want him there then he doesn't have to be there...this is your wedding day only invite people that will make your day better. If you think it will be uncomfortable for you then you don't have to invite him.

We've never been close. I've made attempts to contact him when I'm in his neck of the woods, but he has never madw any attempt. Some people have said that I might regret it when we're older, but....I'm older now!!! This is my 2nd wedding and I really want it to be what I/we want. He's thrown me under the bus too many times for me to be forgiving.

Hello,

This is a tough situation. Did you invite him to your first wedding? I am a person who believes that blood is not thicker than water. If you have reached out and he has not reached back, and you have never been close, then I dont think you have any obligation to invite him, although the first poster does have a point about new beginnings.

I am planning my vow renewal and because theither my or his parents support our marriage, we have decided not to invite them. I personally would not invite him.

Good Luck in your choice, and congratulations. no matter your choice, you will have a wonderful wedding and a loving marriage

I can totally see what you mean if you've never been close and he keeps making no effort to be part of the family then theres really no reason for you to go out of your way to share your special day. You said just closest family and friends will attend so if he ever inquires why he wasn't invited just let him know that it was only people that had been a major part of both yours and your FH lives in the past couple years. I'm curious though, you mentioned the two of you have lost contact does he keep in contact with your parents, aunts, cousins or anything or is he outside the family altogether. But it's always what the bride wants and if you'd enjoy yourself more without him there then that's the way it should be!

JMHO, I would invite him and this way you can say you did and not be the bad person. If you send the invite, it will be his decision whether or not to come.

Good Luck, I hop it works out for you.

Well,

Speaking from experience, I wouldn't Invite him. My little brother and I are not on talking terms AT ALL. Long story short he threatened to kill my FH after we took him and his Girlfriend in since they had no place to live.

My mom said that I cant have my sisters in the wedding if i don't invite my brother. I have now had the extra stress of "is he going to ruin yet another important occasion for me". (he destroyed my High School Graduation, he showed up drunk, he was only 14)

If you are only inviting people that you are close with then i wouldn't invite him. I don't think it will be you regretting not inviting him. You have made the attempt to reach out to him and he hasn't wanted to do the same. He will be the one regretting it!

Hope that helps!

Good Luck!!