Do i have to have a wedding date before i do my Bridesmaid Proposals?

View Quoted Comment It's not particularly etiquette but we're just giving opinions based on the discussions that have come through here about people wanting to demote/fire/kick out a bridesmaid because of this and that. We all hope that you're right about the people you choose not going to be an issue down the road, but things happen. For some odd reason, weddings bring out the worst in some people. Again, this may not be your friends but there's always a possibility and we're just telling you asking later won't ruin anything. My friends essentially know they're in my bridal party, but I haven't officially asked anyone. I'd rather save that fun for closer to the wedding date so they can focus on their own lives.

But you'll do what you want to do, and that's fine. But just consider what we're saying from experience on WW.

So I asked the people I knew I was definitely going to have .. I got engaged in August of 2017 and had asked my maid of honor by October ( she’s been my best friend for 22 years so we both knew it was going to be her .. she actually kept telling my family she wanted to know soon so she could start planning my bachelorette lol) and then I officially asked my fiancé’s 2 sisters on thanksgiving and my cousin I never really asked I just started talking to her about things and sending her dresses lol.. and for my last bridesmaid I just asked a few months ago !

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Thats a cool way to do it!

I wasn't worried about friendships changing for mine since I have had the same friends for many many years. I would wait until you have a date set though. It would be a huge bummer for one of your friends to accept, and then once you set the date its one that conflicts with their schedule, and they can no longer be in the wedding party.

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Thanks! Think 'll wait until I have a date. Yes I'm not worried either.

I have had mine sitting ready to send out I didnt want to do it until I found a venue! But i have definitely seen brides do it as the first step - before anything! It's good to for your tribe to know

If you don't have a date set, how will they know if they're available or not? Don't ask anyone until your plans are 100% set in stone, and you're about 7 months out from the wedding.

Um... I didn't. I asked my girls if they would do it but that I didn't have a date but probably would be October-November 2018. But, the girls that I picked I knew would do it and make it work no matter when it was... I think you just have to know who you are asking.

Yes you should have a wedding date before asking them. In order for them to say yes, they need to know if they are available. You don't want to ask them and then find out their sister is getting married the same day, or they have plans to back pack through South America then

I'd wait just until 12 months out. That way you can figure out more of the big details to your wedding andddd there might be new bridesmaid proposal trends out there that you could use.

Sarah you are so right I grew uo with my Matron she knew me wheb i was in my mothers stomach. I asked her about her hair and wanted to have a convo with her, but thought it better not to because my emotions are everywhere & I didnt want to disrespect or say anything out of the way. My wedding is seven days out and she dropped out today with a text.

I waited to officially ask until we had the date and venue set, but all four of them knew they were going to be asked, they were just waiting.

I got engaged last April and am getting married in November. I’m just now getting around to asking my bridesmaids and I feel like I’ve been good with timing. We are doing a destination wedding so I absolutely wanted to make sure I had a date before asking anyone! I think overall it’s a good idea to have a date set first.

They can't know if they are available until they know the date. As PP have said, the relationships change as well. Lurk around here for a day or three and you will see SO MANY threads about regretting BP choices.

Your friends may ask about it, it's perfectly fine to say "we'll decide that when it gets closer."

I’d wait till you have a date so they know if they can physically be there. They may have a prior commitment!

Wait till you have a date secured and ask 6 months to the date. Some friends get all excited in the beginning then mood switches