Do i have to have a wedding date before i do my Bridesmaid Proposals?

I'd hold off until about 9 months before wedding date to ask them to be in the WP.

Yes. Try to avoid asking until about 7-9 months out. Friendships change (try searching some "firing" bridesmaid posts). Good luck

I'd suggest holding off on asking anyone to be in your bridal party until (at the very earliest!) a year out. There's a lot of posts here where relationships changed within a year or flipped a switch and has created awkward and uncomfortable situations. With that said, I would wait until you have a date set before even asking. It's hard to commit to being in a wedding when you don't know what the date is yet.

I would hold off and say as less as possible, because relationships do change. My day is on March 24, of this year and my matron has changed drastically.

I would absolutely wait until you have a date secured before asking anyone to be in your wedding party. They need to be able to make sure they can actually attend and can't do that unless you have a date secured.

I know, it's so exciting and fresh and you want to *do* something right now! I wouldn't evem think about asking until you have a deposit on a venue.
I had a dear friend whose plans kept changing for legitimate reasons and was constantly pushing back the date. It was three years. She lost track of the first person she asked to be a bridesmaid and another (ok, it was me) wound up not being able to come because of school and travel. It was much messier than it needed to be.

I would wait until you have a date so in your proposal you can tell them the date(s) you will need them. If you know where it will be too, let them know that. Ours is out of town so our wedding party has to be there all weekend (rehersal dinner). They were all good with it and happy I got them the date and the place well in advanced so they could prepare for it themselves.

I would say no.

Your WP can't commit to being there if they don't know the date and location. It's a very different commitment to be available in town for a weekend versus in another state or country for a week.

It's entirely your preference when you choose to ask them; however, I would wait until you and the FH have decided on a date. I too am getting married next September, and I already know who I want in my party. The majority of us have been friends for what'll be 7+ years by the time the wedding rolls around, so I have had no regrets asking them already.

How would they be able to say yes if they don’t know the date? I would say wait. Also, everyone always believes that their friends/family won’t change, but they can. I’d ask about 9 months out- that’s plenty of time to get dresses in.

View Quoted Comment Yea it’s the same here! The people I’m asking have been my friends since 10 plus years. I’ve had my list ready since I was 18 lol

View Quoted Comment Well the people I’m asking ive been friends with for close to 20 years and already know who they are. I just haven’t formally asked because we haven’t nailed down a date.

I say no because, people in bridal party should be close enough to you. These should be friends sisters best of the best so once you got engaged they should already be ready to hear you say be my bridesmaids. This is my opinion though, I don't always follow protocol...

I didn’t have an official date when I asked my girls, but had a general idea of when. I asked before I had the official date mainly because we planned on having a short engagement and knew the month already. (Only 8 months from proposal to wedding)

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been friends. People can still change. My sister was 25 and I was 28 when I married H. She was in my wedding. We were always close. Less than a year after my wedding we completely stopped talking because she started insulting me and my husband regularly, attacked my character on social media, and threatened to call CPS and claim I was hurting my children.

View Quoted Comment Sorry that happened. I do understand people change. No one can predict who will do what. However, this is not my situation and I remain optimistic. I know the kind of bride I will be. Thanks for your input!

View Quoted Comment Good luck with that. Hopefully you won’t end up like the countless people who post on here weekly that thier lifelong friend/cousin/sister is awful and they want to remove them from their wedding party.

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This is my thinking!! They all know who they are! They were the first ones I called other than my Dad! I just didn't know if there was some kind of etiquette regarding it.

You should wait til you have a date so they can know if they will actually be able to attend.