Do Black Rings really Look Like Wedding Bands?

View Quoted Comment And this too.

I think black still looks like a wedding ring. Personally I don’t like that look either though, and FH really did. I wanted us to get matching, simple, white gold bands. But when he tried that on, it looked really silly on his hand. Like I said, he really wanted a black one. He tried on a few dark gray ones and ended up with this, which I felt was a perfect middle ground between what we both liked! I’m still going to be getting my simple white gold band but we’re going to be engraving them with the same thing (the coordinates of the location where we first said “I love you”!) so even though they don’t “match” we’re still connected

Ugh picture didn’t attach lol. Here it is. This is before it was sized too so it’s a little big on him

Black rings are super common now, I didn’t think men ever wore rings on their left ring finger unless they are married. Never even heard of men wearing promise rings. Also I definitely don’t think the purpose of wedding bands is to ward off people from hitting on you and to let everyone know you’re married. I believe they’re a symbol of your commitment and are for you.

While our rings are similar in color, they don’t match. I picked out the band I liked, and DH picked out the one he liked. I disagree with your premise that rings are to identify yourselves as a married couple to other people. My ring is for me, it signifies my commitment to my husband, and I think of him every time I look at it. DH is also a teacher, and during our engagement, a parent asked him to dinner. It was easy enough for him to say “Sorry, I’m engaged” and that was that. It didn’t affect his professional life. And if I saw a man wearing a ring on his left finger, I would automatically assume him to be married—but if someone hypothetically did say something to your husband, it would be just as easy for him to say “I’m married.”

He should have the ring he wants, they don't have to match. I've never heard of the rings having to match.

When people complain about not liking their engagement rings and want to get something different the usual thought is that it's something they will be wearing for the rest of their life so it should be something they love. That should also apply to the wedding band.

How would you feel if your boyfriend wouldn't let you have a diamond (or whatever other stone you want) engagement ring because he doesn't like diamonds? I doubt that would go over well.

It seems incredibly weird to me that you are wanting to dictate the ring he wants to wear. I personally think it is more important that my FH love his ring versus him compromise on what he likes just so it can match.

I see tons of ppl wearing black rings and I think they look good. I also think he should get to choose his ring. I’ve never heard of picking a ring based on your skin tone. My fiancé is Korean and he wants a black ring.

It should be fine it’s the current trend right now. My dad even has one lol! I’ve noticed a lot of guys getting them. He can always have several too! Later he can get a gold ring or something

Just here to say I hate black rings lol

FH wanted one too, we went to look at some & thankfully he liked a different one!

View Quoted Comment That gray ring really is lovely!

View Quoted Comment Thank you! It was a really great compromise for us because I really dislike the look of black rings but he wanted something darker than the regular white gold.

I wanted my ring to be unique. I really liked a rose gold and morganite ring because it was very budget friendly. FH picked me a ring with black diamonds. I love it! 😍 His band is black and I can't picture him wearing rose gold.

It's great we have so many options! Gold, silver, black, rose gold, different gemstones, different textures. There's something for all tastes.

And yes, black rings really look like wedding bands.

It’s not that I’m controlling or anything. I want my FH to love his wedding band. The question came up because we both wanted equal input on all of the rings as a couple, and agreed that both of us had to really love whatever rings we picked out - same for engagement ring and wedding bands. I knew he wanted a black ring really badly, but couldn’t get sold on the idea unless I knew the majority of people would recognize it. I talked to him about what the rings symbolized for him, and I think just the fact that they are rings was symbolic to him of the whole eternity thing, which it is not for me - originally, they’re a pagan tradition and symbols of ownership, derived from shackles in Greek myth. That was kind of why I wanted them to match, because that achieved the same symbolism for me.

The skin color thing may seem silly, but it was important because you literally could not see the band against his skin because the color was the same - the only thing distinguishing the ring was the shine and from three steps away you couldn’t see the ring; it was the same for me with the white - I wore a white gold class ring for six months and nobody noticed bc it was so close to my skin tone. I had an incredulous friend step back five paces and confirm that he couldn’t see it.

I’m glad for Asia’s advice particularly, because we found a ring that matches and that he likes even more than the plain black bands he was looking at. We’re also going to get it in black gold so that it is resizable. (Note: most black rings cannot be resized.).

TLDR: The ring we compromised on is going to look a lot like this, with the Celtic knot pattern but sans the claddagh. Both of us are really excited and love it. http://www.glencara.com/mens-black-rhodium-rose-gold-celtic-claddagh-band-ring.html

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Any ring worn on his left ring finger will look like a wedding band, no matter the color.

Also, I don't see why your rings have to match. I don't think anyone but you would notice they're matching - it's not like you'll be walking around with your left hands out next to each other.

You guys clearly have different styles so I think it's more important for each of you to get rings that you love and will want to wear every day. I'm sure if the situation were reversed you wouldn't like it if he was insisting you get a ring you didn't like.

If he wants a black ring then what is the harm? If you want your FH to love his wedding band then let him get what he wants.

My husband and my ring

Just like I picked out my ring my husband picked out his ring. Ours don't match but he deserves to wear what he is comfortable with. No one has ever questioned whether my husband was married based on how his ring looked. Everyone knew based on the fact that it was a band on his finger.

Think of it this way: how would you feel if your fiance bought you an engagement ring he loved but you didn't? How would you feel if he made your ring choice based on what he wanted and not what you wanted?

View Quoted Comment Hmm.

"they’re a pagan tradition and symbols of ownership, derived from shackles in Greek myth."
I'm glad you're equating your future marriage to slavery Cindi . Honestly?

I think the eternity thing is lovely. I'm glad your FH respects your culture. You should try to see his side.

I got my fiance a black tungsten ring studded with diamonds and a garnet, and it looks gorgeous! Black and red are his favorite colors, and I knew he'd enjoy wearing it on a daily basis. =) This is what I got him:

https://www.etsy.com/transaction/1512609233