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Divorced parents and wedding invitations

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Jane, on June 6, 2019 at 7:04 AM

So my parents are divorced and my mom really does not like my dad/step mom. But, all 3 are contributing a nice amount of money to my wedding (although my dad/step mom more). My mom 100% told me she does not feel comfortable having their names on the wedding invitation. I know it’s proper etiquette to put parents names and when my dad found out I may not put his name, he was a bit offended and upset although ultimately wanted to do whatever we wanted. How do I go about this? Has anyone else just put “with the parents of or with the families of” etc on their invitations? Advice or feedback would be great.

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Super September 2019
ASMini914 · on June 6, 2019 at 11:46 AM
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I think it’s still acceptable, your other option would be to list your moms one one line and then list your dads separately on the next line.
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Just Said Yes November 2021
C Moreno · on March 17, 2021 at 1:58 PM
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This is a bit late to help you but brides and grooms need to remember they can't please everyone. And shouldn't try. I think people should do what is right/proper, simply because that is what it is. Someone is going to be offended....but offense is a choice. And you have to do something. So for the sake of just getting it done go with proper etiquette. 'Mr. and Mrs. so and so and Ms. so and so request the honor of your presence at the wedding of their daugther...so and so.' Going with what is 'proper' can also just relieve the excuses to one parent or the other. "That's the proper way to word it so I went with proper." And let them cry about it. It's your day. And if both are hosting (paying) then they need to be the hosts and be named....properly. I'm wording my daughter's right now and the groom's parents are divorced. And while they don't even like each other and his mother would love for his father (well so would he) not be named or even attend, it is what is proper and they understand I go with what is just proper. And she won't be mad. She understands...even if she doesn't like it. Because she's an adult and acts like one. This is my husband and me hosting a wedding for our daughter to their son. Period. ITS NOT ABOUT YOUR PARENTS! This day is about the bride and groom. It's not just about a party. It's about building a life not a day. And most have 2 parents even if they split up. If one is offended don't cater to their pettiness. It's so childish. Do it the right way and let them whine about it without you hearing it. Let them know you are doing it the proper way without intent to offend and ask them to not whine to you about it. Tell your mother when she gets remarried she can do it her way. This is advice from an old fashion mother. I hope it helps.
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