Divorced parents and wedding invitations

You can put “Together with their families,”. I’ve seen that done before.

Same situation, we are putting “together with their families” which is accurate because we are contributing along with each of my parents and FMIL

View Quoted Comment Do you think it’s nice/okay to put together with their families even if the grooms side isn’t contributing financially? I never know how that works.

Why hurt his feelings because your Mom has hard feelings? Whether she likes it or not, he is still your father and he’s contributing even more than she is. Why does she get to call the shots? Will he be walking you down the aisle or does she have an issue with that as well?

My parents are divorced and both remarried. FH's parents are together. They all contributed different amounts and different things in different ways. Instead of listing everyone out, which I think is silly, we just said "together with their families, Sara ___ and Jared __ invite you..." It kept it simple, looked nice on the invite, no one was offended, and 2 of my cousins and my mom said they liked the wording.

I would put together with their families or tell your mom all of their names go on or no ones does.

View Quoted Comment Yes, we put "together with their families", and technically my mom and stepdad didn't give us any financial amount. They did agree to help atore, transport, and set up decorations, and other things like that. IMO I think it's silly to get hung up on wording based off of who gave what

None of your guests need to know who is paying for the wedding. Even if your FH's family isn't contributing financially, perhaps they helped with planning or emotional support. I would just put together with their families because you are all hosting the party together.

I would also talk to your mom to make sure there are no sour moments during wedding day. Even though she may not like them, your dad and step-mom are still your family who YOU love and who care about YOU.

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I don't see a problem with that. Just be careful of the divorce/separation slippery slope. A lot of divorced parents try to push wedding planning around their divorce over the couple's event. Make this decision a bit more on what you want to do and you feel like is the more appropriate way to honor your parents' contribution.

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This is what I did. My mom and my stepdad, my dad, and my FH's mom and stepdad all are helping pay for the wedding so we just wanted something simple.

I think “together with your families” works best in this case.... if both your mom and dad are contributing , Mom doesn’t get to say Dad can’t be named ...that’s not really fair to anyone (dad have every right to be upset about that !!). Split the difference, go with “together with their families” ...even though FILs are not contributing. Think this route is better despite that as it’s much simpler and you don’t have to worry about navigating the slippery slope of catering to one parent and hurting the other.

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I have to agree here. I would be upset if I was your father too, especially because they are contributing more.

I would just say “together with their families, Hilary and FH invite you...” or you could do “together with their parents”

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I agree with this. Tell your parents this is what you've chosen to do because it's the best way to honor them all without offending anyone. That stinks your parents can't act civilized for your big day though. Good Luck!

I didn't put either. But, we are paying for the wedding our selves. Mine just says "please join us in the celebration of..."

I think your mom is being a bit ridiculous here. He is your dad & he is contributing & this is not her decision.
I see 3 solutions here:
- together with their families - and avoid all drama & lengthy invite wording; unless you’re really against implying FH parents are contributing
- (names of your both parents) invite you - this is absolutely fair & correct
- no parents names - your guests don’t need to know who paid for what & there are other ways to honor your parents too
Just pick the one that you feel most comfortable with!

I would say together with their families or do not recognize them at all on the invite. FH’s parents are contributing a bit, but we did not put anything on the invite except “you are cordially invited to the wedding celebration of Melissa & Sean”

I would put together with families!

Why doesn’t she feel “comfortable”? They are helping pay, and more than she is. How would she feel if you just put their names and not hers? How ridiculous. I’d put still put both parents names to honor them. It’s your wedding, not hers. She can’t dictate what you can and can’t do just because she can’t get over herself and be civil with your father.

I would say "together with their families" instead of specific names.