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Kennyeh
Super August 2018

What Should i Do?

Kennyeh, on December 29, 2017 at 1:09 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 24

I was really hesitant to post this, but I honestly don’t know what to do. So I posted yesterday of my makeupntrial, I also shared the same pics in the WhatsApp group chat with my BP ladies. I have a BM who is my older cousin (cousin C) and she hasn’t been a fan of some of my major decisions,...
I was really hesitant to post this, but I honestly don’t know what to do.
So I posted yesterday of my makeupntrial, I also shared the same pics in the WhatsApp group chat with my BP ladies. I have a BM who is my older cousin (cousin C) and she hasn’t been a fan of some of my major decisions, including hair styles for the BP( we figured, settled and all came to an agreement on that ) BMs dresses( I had to put my foot down on that one which was settled in the end) and now MY makeup. When I posted the pic, in the group chat, the other girls had their opinions like, “pretty, eyebrows should be closer, looks nice...” but C said the foundation shade looked too light , which I agreed to looking at some of the pics and the “look was too simple for a bride.” I then replied and said jokingly “my friend ( I say that a lot when I’m trying to be funny), I think this is already too much makeup, lol but I like it “
This morning, I see that one of my other BMs directly replied her and said, “ but I think that’s the way that Kennyeh wants it”. Then after that, I see that cousin C “left” the group chat.
I don’t want to force anyone to do something that they don’t want to, I also dont see the point in “running” after someone or begging them to do something. I just really want to know if leaving the group chat means that she’s leaving the BP. Like literally ask, “ hey C, I see that you left th group chat, I just want to know if you are still interested in being a BM or naw?” I don’t care on why she left as she didn’t care to communicate with me before or after she left. I don’t care if she left because of me or because of the other girls. Should I care? Should I initiate a conversation ? Sorry for the long post.

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  • Alana
    VIP March 2018
    Alana ·
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    I have a group chat with my bridesmaids. We may chat one time a month if that. As long as and isn't bothering them all day everyday I don't see an issue.

    OP just text your cousin and ask her if everything is ok and go from there.
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  • H
    November 2018
    happeningmom ·
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    Just ignore it...if she was leaving the BP I think she would have made theat clear to you.
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  • EM
    Master April 2017
    EM ·
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    I had a group chat with my side of my bridal party, but it was a group chat that was started year before I was even engaged and definitely wasn't dedicated to only wedding planning.

    I don't see how her leaving the group chat equates to you thinking she wants to leave the BP. That just seems like a weird conclusion to come to, but you obviously know her and her personality better than we do. People have said this already, but I wouldn't ask her if she wants to leave the BP. I probably wouldn't even talk to her about the group chat thing, just text her separately, nbd.

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  • Meg
    Dedicated February 2018
    Meg ·
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    Her phone was probably just blowing up at work or something. Chasing after her is rewarding bad behavior of she Did leave just to be pouty about it.
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