What Are You Not Doing, That Everybody Else Is/Has Done For Their Big Day?

No STD's, No engagement pictures, No engagement dinner, No Programs, No unity candles or sand ceremony, No wedding shower, No bachelorette party, No favors, No garter toss... a lot of No's lol

Hmmmm. we apparently aren't doing bubbles or rice either. logistics. we aren't doing a big exit with sparklers or anything either. we are mixing up the order of some of the big things at the reception, but i guess not omitting them. I personally am not having a drink before the wedding (though my girls are) even though my MOH keeps telling me everyone does. we aren't doing a receiving line. i think that's it. we are doing things pretty traditionally

No STDs, no engagement party/dinner, no programs, no unity candle, doing sand instead. no bubbles or rice. It will be pretty traditional!

No engagement pictures. Probably no unity candle. No programs.

No STD's, no programs at ceremony, no rehearsal dinner (just finger foods), no unity candles,, no party favors, no bubbles or rice..Probably the little sparklers at exit..O yeah an no full bar..Just a beer and wine bar

Not changing my name.

No flower girl/ring bearer (neither of us have nieces/nephews or friends with kids, so we didn't want to include random kids just for tradition).

No bouquet/garter toss (FH is way too shy to do the garter thing and I hate the idea of calling out all the single women for bouquet toss)

Both my parents are walking me down the isle. FH is "walking down the isle" and seating his parents before the rest of wedding party enters, b/c I feel like they have supported him just as much as my parents have supported him so they deserve a special moment with him, as well.

I'm having a "Woman of Honor" and "BridesMates" rather than a maid of honor and bridesmaids.

We skipped most reception activities, and opted for dinner and cake cutting.

- no grand entrance

- no toasts

- no first dance

- no open dancing / music (we were at a restaurant)

- no bouquet toss, garter toss

No traditional wedding events either

- no engagement party

- no bridal shower

- no bachelor/ette parties

- no rehearsal dinner (rehearsal yes, dinner no)

I wanted to have most of these, but the budget didn't allow it.

* No groom

* No engagement rings

* No STDs

* No engagement pictures

* No engagement dinner/party

* No wedding shower

* No floral decorations for ceremony or reception, other than personal flowers and some freeze-dried rose petals at the at-home reception

* No flower girl or ring bearer

* No one escorting either of us down the aisle

* No unity ceremony of any kind

* No bubbles, rice, sparklers, etc.

* No limo

* No receiving line

* No favors

* No bouquet toss

* No garter toss

* No "special" dances other than the first dance

* No honeymoon

* Neither of us changed her name.

Our attendants were a maid of honor and a dude of honor.

No shower, No receiving line, No garter removal or toss, No Dollar Dance or Fundraisers of any sort

No engagement pics or party

no unity candles

no bubbles, rice , etc

I don't think we'll do a shower

No rec. line

No bouquet / garter toss

no father/daughter mother / son dance

parents will be introduced from their seats

So far...

NO

* e-pics

* STD

* wedding party ( just two attendants)

* unity candles, sand, broom.....

* garter toss

* bouquet toss

* Bridal shower

* receiving line

* Dollar Dance

* Engagement party

* Rehearsal dinner

* Probably no "exit"

No garter toss, no dollar dance, and FH doesn't want a bachelor party.

No: programs, unity candle, dollar dance, engagement party/pics, super fancy expensive invitations, no bubbles/rice. Thinking against bouquet/garter toss and rehearsal dinner ( my wedding is 7/5/14) I'm thinking everyone will be somewhere watching fireworks

No e-pics

No name change for me, FH is taking my name

No rehearsal dinner

No engagement party

No garter removal/toss

No receiving line

No sand ceremony

No limo

Definitely NO cake smashing (FH would be in big trouble if he did)

No full bar, doing wine & champagne maybe beer

We are doing a variation on unity candle where everyone ends up with a lit candle

No engagement pictures, no programs, no unity candle or sand or all that, no flower girl or ring bearer, no cake (cupcakes--cakes are too overpriced),

We are doing STDs and a receiving line, though, and they seem to be on a lot of "cut" lists, but we have a lot of OOT guests

No engagement photos

no website

no unity candle/sand/rope/etc

no traditional cake (cupcakes instead)

no receiving line

no garter/bouquet toss

no limo

no large bridal party (two honors, and a handful of kids)

no choreographed dances

no super high heels

no tie for him (unless he changed his mind)

no patent leather shoes for him (unless he changed his mind)

no send-off stuff (rice, bubbles, confetti, ribbon wands, sparklers, etc)

No e pics, no showers, not registering, no bouquet or garter toss, no grand exit, and thinking about not doing parent dances

I wasn't going to have a flower girl, but I caved. I didn't do engagement photos or an engagement party. The ceremony and reception are at the same place, so there will be no rice/bubbles/anything throwing because there's no big exit. Also not an end of night exit because we are all sleeping on premises.

Things I'm not having:

Engagement photos

Engagement party

Limo

Flower girl

Thrown anything from the guests

DJ

First dances

Cake smashing (I'm not a clown and my wedding is not a comedy performance)

Trash the dress pictures

And absolutely *no* banging on the glasses to try to force my groom and me to kiss. I discussed it with my fiance, and we'll just pretend not to hear if anyone tries it. The last wedding I went to got pretty out of control with this- it got to a point where someone would start banging on a glass as soon as someone else stopped.

No engagement pics

No shower

No bachelorette (though wedding party and friends seem to want this!)

No procession (HB is Eastern/Greek Orthodox and they don't do that)

No videographer

No cake cutting or smashing

No bouquet toss

No "first dance"

No favors (though we're having a sweet table and photo booth)

As I'm writing this list I'm thinking "Wow...kind of somber!" but it's not. We have changed the scope in just one month from a small church wedding and intimate, nice dinner with immediate family and close friends only...to 100+ people, 10-person wedding party, princess dress, full-blown suburban reception venue, DJ, dancing, STDs, DOC, etc.

We keep saying "it has to be understated" because of our ages but then we get options presented to us and we...find ourselves opting in...and wholeheartedly in favor of whatever options are presented. Wedding scope drift at its worst, though I think once we set a firm and realistic budget, we stopped saying yes so much.

But fun as heck~!