Videographer

I was in your shoes months ago! We originally didn’t budget for a videographer because it wasn’t set as a priority for us and we wanted to be sure we could afford great food, a photographer, and a DJ as they were our priority. Once we surpassed our budget in savings for the wedding about 7 months out, it helped me win the long battle of convincing him to hire a videographer. I didn’t win without a fight though. I’m a person who will frequently scroll back through my pictures, videos, or social media (I love Facebook’s “X years today you shared this picture”) to relive that moment or giggle at them or whatever. I didn’t want to regret the chance at having a video that captured candid moments I didn’t see myself because I was mingling with another table, or miss the funky dance move of Uncle Bob, or my father’s reaction as we walk down the aisle. I know we didn’t budget for it at first, but the more I watched other wedding videos, the more I was willing to work to make sure I had one... even to picking up extra shifts at work when my FH knows I hate working more than I need to lol. Maybe you can find a compromise and maybe not get the full deluxe package but maybe a few hours worth of the ceremony and reception?

I had this same issue! I follow a few videographers on facebook who post lots of montages of weddings they've done. I showed FH a few that were amazingly done and he was all for it after that. I also explained that yes, we'll have pics but what about those special things that will be said or that funny moment that we might want to watch over the years.

I'm on the other side of this, I don't want a videographer! The wedding videos I've seen all look cringey to me. Not that the video wasn't high quality, everything just looks staged and awkward. I know that's not the case, but I honestly hate any video I'm in, and I'd never want to watch it. If we end up with a huge space in the budget (though we have less than 4 months to go), we'll consider it, but goodness they're expensive!

We went back and forth on a videographer (my H was fine with either option, so it wasn't really a disagreement, we both were on the fence). We ended up going for it (based on advice I got here), and I'm so happy we did. Our photographer was awesome and our pictures are great, but I loved hearing our vows again (we wrote our own). I loved hearing the toasts again. It definitely brought back memories beyond what the photos did for us. To help convince him, is there anything you are doing at your wedding that is particularly unique or sentimental? For example we decided to go for the videographer because we were writing our own vows and wanted to hear them again and we got married on St. Patrick's Day and my niece did an Irish step dance (she competes) and that was one that I thought would be cool to show her for years to come. Those were sentimental things that I knew a photo couldn't really capture. If he has any elderly relatives, that could be another angle. Like, we can get this awesome video of grandma enjoying our special day before she leaves this world. I would say it's definitely worth it. I thought it would be something that I'd watch once and never want to watch again, but when I watched it the first time my reaction was that it actually was something I would watch over and over again. It was just so cool to relive it. The day goes by really fast, you forget things that happen, and the video also lets you see things that you missed when you were off taking photos or something else. Good luck!

Hi Sarah! So many people I know who have had wedding videos never regret it! They say it's a great way to look back and feel all those emotions from the wedding again! I found two great articles that may be able to help you convince the fiance! I'll link them below!

The 5 Reasons you MUST hire a videographer

Why a videographer costs that much

Hi Sarah!! I totally understand where you are coming from - I’m a very sentimental person too and would want to capture everything possible! I think you could use the sentimental route to try to convince your FS! My argument would be that the wedding goes by so fast and that a video would capture those little moments that you might have missed or would forget over time.

My parents have an old wedding cassette tape (remember those?!) that my brother and I loved watching growing up! We would always watch it and my parents would say “wow I didn’t remember that” or “oh ya! I forgot (so and so) was there!”. Even though it had been 10+ years, they always enjoyed walking down *wedding* memory lane

In addition to the links Kelly provided, this discussion might also be helpful if you’re looking for more compelling arguments for and against a videographer!

Videographer: Pros and Cons

Good luck in your pro-videographer quest! Keep us updated on what you and your FS decide!