SPINOFF - did your FH get your dad's permission to propose?

My FH asked my parents!

So did mine and can you believe my father didn't want to contribute to the wedding? Guess who was scratched off the invite list lol

Tionnei - really? Did he say no then? And what was his reasoning?

No he didn't ask. Was going to but no.. Now he did speak to my mother she basically knew from the start.

No, he didn't. My parents already expressed their approval of FH and my father told me that I am my own person, I didn't need permission. They had no clue when it was coming and they were ecstatic.

I told my FH that if he wanted to marry me, I'd appreciate it if he would ask my dad. I love my dad and really wanted to give him the respect of asking; of course I was pretty sure that dad would give his permission- he loves my FH!

When we called to tell them that we were engaged my dad responded with "Oh, I am SOOOO surprised" and my mom basically responded with "you knew??!" It was too funny.

Mine did ask my parents, I didn't ask him to but he knew I would like that. We were all on a family vacation and he asked them one night after I went to bed, then he proposed the next morning.

My FH didn't. My dad, even though he would have said yes, was hurt that he didn't do it the "traditional" way. I am ok with that though. FH and I have been together for five and a half years now and we have lived together for four and a half so I knew we would eventually get married but had never really talked about it. We were too concerned with getting a house. My parents can't keep a secret so they would probably have ruined the surprise.

He asked for their blessing, not permission. We decided together that he would. Originally we decided not to, but my dad is pretty traditional and I think he would have been a little hurt if FH didn't.

ETA: he asked both my parents not just my dad

Wait. Tionnei- you uninvited your father because he couldn't contribute to your wedding?

Mine didn't ask...more like told him the plans over the phone. My dad was like "why didn't you come over for a beer?" And just laughed saying how he remembers how nerve wracking it is. DH was freaking out. Actually, I think he called my mom first. Hahaha

In his defense my dad is an retired Sargent and can be a bit scary.

Mine didn't....my relationship with my dad is complicated. My dad was upset that he didn't ask and I explained to him that had we had a different relationship he most certainly would have asked.

My FH had a conversation with my dad about asking me. He said he didn't "ask" but he says it was mutually agreed upon lmao. Whatever that means.

FH didn't really ask for permission, but stopped at my parents house before we left for Italy to let them know his plans to propose on vacation.

I do like that he included my family because my family means a lot to me. But I'm also glad it wasn't in a "permission" style. My dad was really happy to have a heads up and they did share a beer.

FH called both of my parents (divorced) for their blessing... A week before he proposed... After he bought the ring. We had been together 4 years, and talked about marriage. I told FH that asking my parents was one traditional thing I asked for. He obliged.

I was just surprised that my mom kept a lid on it for a week!

My dad wasn't really in the picture so FH asked my mom. It was sweet :-)

I'm interested to hear what Tionnei has to say about uninviting her father because he said he wouldn't contribute. Let's talk more about that.

He took my daddy outside on Thanksgiving and asked permission to marry his daughter. My silly daddy-o, the next day, called me and told me my FH wanted to marry me *eyeroll* but it still made me so happy even though he kind of ruined the surprise!

My H didn't ask permission, he sat both my parents down, showed them the ring, told them of his intentions, and asked if they supported him in asking me to marry him. And they both said, yes of course.

FH did ask my stepfather...I don't think it was necessarily permission more of his blessing. I'm glad he talked to my stepdad. My stepfather and FH are super close and its a good feeling considering for the first year of our relationship he barely came around. My family thought I made him up! But they are like two peas in a pod. They do a lot together. My stepdad took my FH in as his own son (FH father passed 4 years ago). My older sister got engaged and my father was upset that her "fiancé" didn't ask him. And my little sisters bf has been around for 9 years (they are jr high sweethearts) and my dad and FH are closer.

I'm curious about Tionnei too. If he was being a jackass and she didn't give more of the story that's one thing, but uninviting your dad because he didn't give you money? That's low. I didn't assume my parents were going to cough up anything for my wedding and they gave us $1500 for whatever we wanted to use it on. We are very thankful, we don't like to expect anyone to give us anything. I think it's rude.