rsvp Declines

I actually felt kind of sad because we weren’t inviting many people anyway. I was only relieved when two people declined. Both because they have young babies and we’re having a no kid wedding and FH said if they were coming they’d bring their kids anyway which I didn’t want so that was a relief. Other than that, I feel sad because most of his family isn’t coming and I don’t have a large family.

Hahaha!!! I’m on the same boat!! I’ve not even sent out the invites yet and we had a few people decline... in my head I said “Yes!!!”..... now I can actually make space for a few other people that I also really want there. 😂😂😂...(tight guest list)

I have never been so happy and hopefully to get a decline! And I haven't even sent out the invitations yet...just the STDs!

Phew! It’s not just me lol here’s to hoping for a few more declines lol

I am! There are people we invited we knew wouldn't go...there are people we invited that I didn't want to, so when they RSVP NO I'm happy.
However, I am sad that it seems like several of his family members that we totally love aren't going to be able to make it due to scheduling conflicts

It's a month out from my wedding and I'm sad about every no I get😔

There are some I would be totally relieved to receive.

I’m happy to see the numbers go down, as we invited more than I really wanted to. We also extended plus ones to some people, so every decline is a win for me. I was only truly sad that one person can’t go, as she’s a close family friend, but I don’t mind the others. We still have two more weeks for responses to come in, so we’ll see.

It does seem bad to feel this way, but we ended up inviting more people than I wanted. So far the decline we've gotten was someone I didn't think would make it, but it feels good to free up some space.

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Please don't b-list your guests. If someone is important enough to come to your wedding, they would be on the original guest list. Super rude and very hurtful to the guests that find out they were just a runner-up to the original invite that was declined.

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My FH has a HUGE family. I’m inviting 50 and he’s at 160. I totally want him to be happy but I’ve not met many of these people and things are just so expensive. Also, spending the night meeting everyone and doing small talk is not my idea of a fun wedding. 😕

Yes!! At first I was really sad but then I saw an estimate of how much the food is costing and now im not sad to see declined rsvp cards lol

I do know that feeling.... given how expensive food and alcohol is, a few declines really would help my budget!

I am in the same boat. I haven't sent invitations yet but I hope we get a lot of declines. I wanted a small wedding but my FH has a huge family so instead of 50 we are at about 100. I will be sending invites soon so here's to less people lol.

I got three declines today and I was so happy. We are really hoping for fewer than 50 guests, but we ended up inviting too many people because I have a huge family. Good nes/bad news, though, each side of my family is having major events that also involve most traveling three weeks on either side of our wedding (family reunion and another wedding), so that's definitely diminishing my guest list.

View Quoted Comment I don't see this as b-listing. If you know a guest can't come before you've sent the invitations then you'd be inviting someone else at the same time as all the other invites go out, not say waiting for RSVPs to come back and then inviting a person three weeks before the wedding.

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Ditto, no one really knew who was on the list. This is not B-listing. When some os our family declined with the STD (that not everyone got), it definitely opened up some space. And these family members requested we don't waste our time with an invitation, so we won't.

View Quoted Comment Well first off it was never a B list guest list... I just felt obligated to invite some of my parents friends and couldn’t make space for other people to have plus ones or my church family I really wanted to Invite.. so when people told me ”No”immediately I was really happy... I was able to fit in the people I actually wanted to be there vs. a friend of my parent or someone I barely know just because I “had to invite “ ... we all have people ok our list that we don’t really care to be there but we feel obligated to invite.. because of whatever reason.. I’m very happy and hope all of them decline !!! Because my list is so tight and I actually have a lot of people I want to have there...

View Quoted Comment My thoughts exactly!! 🙂🙂

We have way too many people on our list at this point (I have a MASSIVE family on all sides), and I am praying for at least a 25% decline rate. We are obviously able to host 100%, but that isn't how many people I want there.