Planning a perfect wedding day with theme

I would be more concerned with the date. Most people will be busy with holidays and it’s a tight money time of year. I wouldn’t plan a wedding that close to Christmas.

I’m confused... you had a civil union already? So your wedding date is actually December 23rd because it’s your anniversary, but you’re looking to schedule a celebration of marriage on the 21st? I don’t think rustic or sunflowers make sense for a wedding so close to the holidays. Since you’re already married, maybe just have your celebration in the fall and that will also allow more people to attend. Why are you planning a celebration two years after your wedding though? Are you planning to have a vow renewal at this celebration?

Ok first of all civil union does not equal marriage. Civil union is the bs term the us governemt threw at same sex couples in an attempt to make us stop fighting for marriage equity.

So yes, you get to have a (legal) wedding now. And it doesn’t need to be a ‘vow renewal’ or a ‘celebration of marriage’ it can and is going to be your wedding.

I think a sunflower wedding in December sounds amazing. It’s a sunny breath in a dark season. I love playing with the sense of time and place.

If you’re planning something small with your immediate family I wouldn’t worry about the date, people who are going to spend Christmas with you anyway will be happy to come to your winter wedding.

My wedding was December 23rd and that date was perfect for us since it was a small wedding with immediate family and close friends only. I did check with my VIPs first before choosing the date. We had 40 guests which created a wonderful intimate, cozy Christmas wedding weekend. I like sunflowers but wonder if you would have a hard time getting them in December? Perhaps these could be used as small accents?

The theme is a tad confusing for a December wedding but would make for a nice August/September wedding. I LOVE sunflowers but unfortunately they don't really go with our theme. You have to consider if time of year or flower selection matter more to you!

Thank you all for you comments and different perspectives! It's nice to have reassurance to my ideas and other great ideas to consider. So, I didn't include that I just got married with my husband by court house on 12/23/17. We were already living together, behaving, and already dedicated like a married couple. I assured him that I wanted an official proposal and he wanted to get married right after. The court is no real significance other than changing my last name, plus nobody knows that we did. I believe a wedding involves an affiliated ceremony tied with your beliefs, a promise to God and your loved one. So it will be super special to get married in church and have a big celebration with everyone not knowing our legal secret and giving them time to enjoy the fiance period. So I wanted to have it around the same last Saturday before Christmas to be considered our official anniversary. So it may be December 2018 or 2019, not rushing so I can assure to have all elements of our dream ceremony and celebration.