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countrybride*H*
Master April 2012

Paging Meghan B, Analy.. any of the honest critics out there!!! *This is long!!**UPDATE*

countrybride*H*, on May 9, 2011 at 2:36 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 19

There's now an issue that I have with a GM. What are your opinions?

Ok. So first off, all the people involved in this little situation: Brent: FH's cousin and BM, Brandon: the pastor who will be marrying us and is FH's good friend, and finally... Joey: FH and Brent's cousin who is the origin of all the drama, he's also a GM as of now. So to start... I want joey out of our wedding!!! All of the guys play softball. This all happened last week. FH, Brandon and Brent all decided they wanted to get their own team up for the summer leauges here at our local rec department where we live. So Brandon calls joey to ask him if he wants to play with him, Brent, and FH's team this summer and he says no. Well a few days go by, joey calls Brandon and cusses him out for being a preacher, then goes on to put Brandon's church down and says he better watch out because after joey tells everyone how Brandon is he's not gonna have any members left in his church but the few family members that go to his church. Then he txts FH and Brent cussing them out for not playing with him this year. Then joey goes on to threaten Brents business (which is chicken houses) saying that he will make sure Brent doesn't get chickens ever again.. knowing good and well that the chicken houses is Brent's only source of income. Then Saturday FH plays another one of his friends in a tournament over the weekend, so joey txts the guy that FH is playing with saying you have some good guys playing with you today, but you better watch out for Duda (FH's nickname) you can't trust him and he will break your team up. So this continues all week, then yesterday FH and I are over at his mom's house visiting with her. joey txts FH on off yesterday and eventually FH just quit responding. Then joey txt FH back saying why you get all quiet and quit responding, FH replies saying me and chelsea are at my moms, joey replies saying oh so you acknowledge other family members but not me and goes on about how alot of people will get hurt over how FH and Brent are acting (FH, Brent, and joey all live in the same part of town). So after that he's told FH, Brent, and Brandon that he is going to get even with all of them eventually. This is the farthest joey has ever gone (and by that I mean he's never fussed anyone else but FH out about softball before, this time he brings Brent and Brandon in on it), he's fussed FH out before over him not playing with him last year, so this make 2 times he's fussed FH out over softball in less than a year, and this time he brings in Brandon who will be marrying us and Brent into everything. I feel that joey doesn't deserve to stand up to FH on our wedding day after all this. I've told FH that I don't want him in the wedding anymore and I don't want any of my girls walking with him. FH says if he changes then he's still in but if not he will kick him out. So yeah. It's all ridiculous, and I'm beyond mad about it all. joey is the bad guy and he's making Brandon, Brent and FH out to be the worst people in the world when its the other way around.

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Latest activity by FutureMrs.BTA, on May 10, 2011 at 4:04 PM
  • countrybride*H*
    Master April 2012
    countrybride*H* ·
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  • Analy aka T-waffle
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    Analy aka T-waffle ·
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    I don't really know what you're asking....

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  • countrybride*H*
    Master April 2012
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    Sorry, left that part out. Am I being a total bridezilla here, or am I blowing this way out of porportion by wanting him out?

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  • Leyila
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    Is your FH going to have a talk with him? Don't take any action yet. You still have plenty of time. Cool down and talk with FH about it. Is this all over a ball game? I'm kind of confused about why he's acting like that.

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  • Carole M (a.k.a "old tart")
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    Ditto on the confusion....I would give an honest opinion but the dynamics are unclear.

    Good luck any way!

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  • Analy aka T-waffle
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    Well, does FH want him out? Is he speaking badly of you, or just having a little tantrum because he got picked last? Either way, he seems incredibly immature, and I don't blame you. I'd let it go for now, since you have a while before the wedding.

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  • Glenn
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    I'd have to agree, at this point it's too early to go kicking him out as he has time to grow up, but you need to figure out what's going on.

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  • countrybride*H*
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    @ Analy- it wasn't that he got picked last, he flipped out on the guys just because they want their own team this year. And yes, its all over just a ballgame. This is the second time in less than a year that joey has fussed FH out over softball, when it happened last year I was willing to let it slide because is his cousin, but this tme jsut put it over the top. I think alot of it has to do with the the fact that he brought in the best man and the man who will be marrying us makes it worse.

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  • Mrs♥In♥September
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    Maybe with time he will cool down and things will settle down. His behavior is just childish leaning towards nuts. If for some reason it does not change or gets worse (I really hope not), then talk to FH and see what he thinks.

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  • countrybride*H*
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    FH has said if he doesn't change or keeps at him, Brent, or Brandon then he will be more inclined to kick him out. But for now he said if he changes or not will determine if he's still in the wedding or not.

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  • countrybride*H*
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    Ever since it happened last year FH knows he's not my most favorite person, up until now I could put with him and not mind being around him, now I just flat out don't like him and would rather not be around him. I've made it clear to FH that I don't want him in the wedding and I don't want any of my girls walking with him, I'm not forcing him to kick him out, but he knows where I stand. If FH wants him in, then that's his decison. He knows my standing on it all. Its not just me that's mad about it, FH's sisters, his aunt and uncle, dad, and his mom are all as mad about it as me.

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  • Puffins
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    Based on your last comment (sorry, the story was pretty hard to follow), you've done all you can. He's your FH's groomsmen, and you have 1 year until your wedding. Maybe this guy quits softball and there is never a problem again... or maybe this is a sign of bigger things to come and the guys will take care of it amongst themselves. I would drop it for now...

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  • countrybride*H*
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    I've only brought up that I want him out one time just so he knows how I feel about it. Other than that I'm just preparing myself to stand up for FH if joey actually decides to start bad mouthing FH infront of a bunch of people.
    @ Anna B- long story short, joey cusses FH, FH's best man, and our officiant (who is a very good friend of FH's) out for not playing on his team this summer for the recreation departments leauges that start up in a month or so to the point of making alot of people mad.

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  • Puffins
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    Sorry, I meant that I wasn't really clear on the back-story but I think I get it now after re-reading. I agree that he needs to grow up. Sounds like you have considered your options and everything, I think what you're doing is reasonable! Good luck! Smiley smile

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  • Ab
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    So it's only been twice in the last year? I guess depending on how intense he was in the cussing and stuff..Is this a repeated pattern or have there only been two episodes? I think if these are the only two, as much as it is hard cut him some slack; people do stupid stuff and lose their temper, nobody is perfect (I'm not saying that is okay by any means however). Given it's a year away, I say see if it happens again or if he apologizes. Maybe your FH can have a heart to heart with the GM after he can cool out, then make a decision depending on how that goes. Good luck!

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  • countrybride*H*
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    Thanks anna! Smiley smile

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  • countrybride*H*
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    *UPDATE*

    Well yesterday the guy cusses out Brandon (FH's good friend who is a pastor and is marrying us for those of you didn't read the back story) again, and has now moved on too cuss out another one of FH's friends (this guy isn't in the wedding) for not playing with him... its just getting ridiculous and I've about had it!

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  • Rosie
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    I would stay out of it. Your FH, Brandon, and Brent are big boys and can take care of themselves. When you start meddling, that's when you start venturing into bridezilla territory.

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  • FutureMrs.BTA
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    This guy sounds like a looney. Why is he so upset over something so extremely trivial??? Personally, I would stay out of it and leave it up to the FH to figure out what he wants to do since it is his GM. Don't get yourself worked up over this...it's dumb. You still have a whole year to be stressed over stuff that really matters.

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