NOT Doing A Seating Chart

I went to a wedding in July that didn't have a seating chart and I didn't know anyone except the bride and groom. It was extremely awkward for me and wished they did one and they only had about 70 guests. Some people I was kind of talking to noticed I didn't have a seat with anyone I knew so they invited me to their table but there weren't any chairs left so I grabbed a chair from another table to bring over and basically ate my food on my lap so I didn't have to be alone.

Please do a seating chart.

I went to a family wedding two years ago. They reserved four tables for certain family members with name cards and the rest of us had to fend for ourselves (we were family too but I guess not "family enough.") No one knew if they were considered "family enough" until they asked past the assigned seats and saw they they didn't make the cut. Then we had to find another seat. (The reception was also catered by the local church ladies, so there were all kinds of hella wrongs that took place during the reception.)

Seriously though, what's the rain plan?

We'll likely do one but we have space for over 400 guests. Probably do it for the table assignments so my aunts and uncles are mixed with FH and my friends. Mainly for the generation gap to be honest. We attended a wedding recently with names at each table and that seemed a bit much for me, just keeping the tables straight seems enough for me. But it is YOUR wedding girl, do as you please! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

People, please stop saying this kind of crap is normal in Kansas. I swear the rest of the country already thinks we are back assward rednecks. I promise, we are not all like this.

This is how I picture your wedding.

@kitandkaboodle I find it it's always family who behaves the worst at weddings. My family (aunts, uncles, and cousins) are seriously the worst and I learned my lesson at my brother's wedding and family gatherings so there is no way in hell im having them at my wedding. Families are scary.

@JustKidding - hey girl heyyy!!

I went to my cousin's wedding in Kansas. Tables were assigned. So you can't blame it on being from Kansas. You should assign tables but not actual seats at the table. Don't be lazy, it's nice for your guests.

Food sucked and they only offered a taco station though. All the family visiting from NJ got Wendy's near the hotel after the wedding. We still talk about this over 10 years later.

That sounds like complete chaos. Esp with that many people

I think the taco station was the only food that was offered and not enough for everyone. We were starving.

I was at a wedding just last night and it had no assigned seats or tables. It was awkward and uncomfortable. We walked around to make sure there wasn't a table with place cards or anything. I think table assignments make life easier.

We have only about 130 or so guests but no seating chart planned! Most weddings I've been to, the families tend to congregate together. We've never seen an issue yet so it wasnt too much of an issue for us. Good luck and congrats!

@love I watched an episode of four weddings today where tacos were the only meal choice and they got really low marks. I'm a huge taco fan so it never occurred to me that there may be people who don't like tacos so much. (Like totally does not compute to me) When I saw this episode I realized that taco bars maybe aren't for everyone. But not having enough is whole other issue.

I went to a wedding with 250 people and it was a mess. I had to change tables several times because a family was unable to find seats together and I offered to move. I was glad to help but I can see where this would be extremely annoying to your guests.

Nope, not buying it. Make a seating chart.

We went to one wedding without a seating chart and it was so awkward finding a table because we didn't know anyone besides the groom and one groomsman. We were surrounded by little children (toddlers / still in diapers). It was awful.

We had 100 people and didn't do a seating chart. Everyone told me they were relieved. But 250? Eek. I would do a chart.

Over 30 people, I highly recommend a seating chart. My aunt even does table assignments for holidays because there are so many of us.

We're not doing a seating chart because our reception is at a bar-turned-theatre. There won't be tables, and our guests will be part of the live entertainment. There are three levels to the place with the baby sitting on the bottom floor, drinks/entertainment on the second (main) floor, and food on the top floor. People can eat, drink, play, and sing wherever they want all night.