No location on invitation, ok or not?

I partially agree with most people here. One of the main points of invites is the location. However, I don't think it makes your date any less set in stone tbh. I picked my date after a couple days of being engaged and long before I did any wedding planning or looked at venues. It might make it harder to find something but I do not think you should have to change your date for a venue. How would you let people know the location once you send the invites out with no date?

View Quoted Comment Almost all my guests know the date of my wedding and just keep bugging me about sending out invitations so they can see how they look.

View Quoted Comment Sorry, I should have explained that I sent out save the dates so that's how they know the date

I would definitely wait. My wedding is also in September and I'm not sending invties out until early-mid July

Have you sent out Save the Dates? That might be a better option to let people know certain details and they can start planning. In my opinion, sending the invites too early may lead to some people forgetting or making other plans, and announcing the venue at a later date may be hectic for you and guests; especially in regards to blocking hotels that are in close proximity for out-of-town guests.

As I'm sure you've seen by everyone else an invitation has to have a time and location on it. My save the dates however only had the state and date and that's ok.
If people are bugging you too much just be honest. You have to figure out the venue and timeline and once ya do the invitations will be sent. 😊

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I agree. You can say the date is set in stone all you want but until you have a deposit down on a venue and have a date locked in with the venue (dates fill up so fast so you wont know if the venue you want even has your desired date available) you can't 100% say you will get the date you want.

I would Send out STDs and/or make a site WeddingWire has one for free 😉

View Quoted Comment We can agree to disagree. If you look at the previous page you’ll see my comment as to why it’s set in stone 😉

Also I can tell no one read my comment on the previous page but I solved the issue by setting up a wedding website. Thank you all.

You can always do save the dates first with the specific city and state of your area. When you finalize the venue and the date (some venues may not have your date available..so make sure to have other dates in mind), you can send out the finalized invitations.

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I think people are reading it but your sentimental date is on a Saturday during the busiest wedding time of the year which is only in a few months...you need to book your venue ASAP.

View Quoted Comment Wow I had no idea that I’m significantly behind on booking a venue and I’m not stressed about it at all

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What most people on here are telling you is to focus on finding a venue that:

1) fits your budget

2) fits the amount of people you want with no minimums (it looks like you have about 50 people you are inviting)

3) fits what you want in a venue

AND then make sure it fits your date you would like.

We're just trying to make you understand that you might have to be flexible with your date given the day of the week, time of year, and time constraints.

View Quoted Comment Girl what do you think I’ve been doing since he proposed in December? Sitting on my butt staring at my ring? 🤦🏻‍♀️

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That's incredibly rude. You asked for advice and people are trying to help? Also - if you have been looking for a venue since you got engaged in December and haven't been able to find one, how are you so confident that you will now?

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Seeing the same advice for about three pages gets kind of old, especially when I said I’ve taken advice and solved my issue. Then this chick tells me my date isn’t set until I find my venue and when I politely told her we can agree to disagree she just kept pushing it when it didn’t need to be pushed. Especially when I even said if we absolutely have to change the date we will.

The significance of the date is to honor my fiancé’s grandfather, he was the only father figure he knew. His grandfather was diagnosed with cancer and it spread very quickly. My fiancé never got to say goodbye to him. His grandfathers birthday is September 14th and when I told my fiancé I wanted to have the wedding that day to honor his grandfather it made him incredibly happy. The date just happened to fall on a Saturday this year, and won’t fall on a weekend again until 2024. Weddings during the week feel odd to us which is why we decided to do it this year, knowing it would be a struggle and making alternate plans just in case.

In February my fiancé got into a car accident, totaling our car. He wasn’t able to work and he lost his job. He’s been looking daily but hasn’t found anything. Everything we had saved up for the wedding had to go towards a down payment for another car, which was a used car that we had to negotiate the lowest price possible for. I work two jobs, I’ve taken on more work and starting an internship at my other job which should bring in more money in the next couple of months.

I’m not trying to sound like an ungrateful brat but my fiancé and I are really trying not to let the things that are bringing us down take away from something that we know is going to be special and make us incredibly happy.

I’m fortunate that I’ve already had my wedding dress for a while, because it’s a major cost that we may not have been able to afford. Our wedding cake is being done by a friend who will be opening a bakery soon, and we aren’t being charged at all for it (though I do plan on at least a small compensation to show my appreciation). I’m not doing traditional flowers, instead I’ll be making garland from the eucalyptus I have in my yard and buying a handful of inexpensive flowers wholesale to fill in here and there. I went to school for floral design and it will be no issue, especially since I can make the garland a day or so before the wedding without compromising the look of the eucalyptus. My engagement ring is a family heirloom and thick enough that I don’t need a wedding band. His band came off amazon for about $20, he picked it out and loves it. My maid of honor is a makeup artist and amazing with hair. My fiancé’s wardrobe is less than $100. We have a friend in a band that is going to handle music in exchange for food and beer, same deal with my friends sister that’s a professional photographer. I have no issue giving them financial compensation in addition to the “payment” they asked for.

As of right now our only issue is the venue. Although my father said he would pay for it I’m not relying on him (waiting around) for the money. We’ve been in frequent contact with numerous spaces and toured a few. The one place we were ready to put down a deposit for was very unprofessional and I was being overcharged which broke our trust in them completely.

We aren’t trying to do anything extravagant, we’re simple people just trying to plan a nice wedding.

If your date is set and stone then you send out save the dates. Its way to early to send out invitations. But like someone else stated how is your date 100% locked in if you haven't found a venue yet. You could find a venue you love and your date be unavailable. I am just saying... But send save the dates if you want to send something out.

View Quoted Comment No one is trying to be rude, they're just trying to be realistic. If the date is important to you, which is it obviously is, and you're willing to do a simple back yard wedding then that's fine. But if you send out save the dates or invites and you can't fit that many people then you'll run into some issues. If you send out invites or save the dates before you actually have a venue and you decide to change the date then they weren't worth it because you'll still have to inform everyone of the new date.

No one wants you to fail, that's why they're trying to warn you of problems you could potentially run into by not having a venue locked down and by sending out invites this early.

Some people don't read through all the comments to see your response that you solved it with a wedding website, that's why you're still getting replies after you responded.

I hope everything works out for you. Sounds like you had a tough road to travel and you deserve to have a great wedding just like everyone else.

We just toured a venue and the finalized contract will be drafted my Tuesday, deposit will be put down Thursday when we go sign it ❤️