Is it to early to plan?

Personally, I think it is too early. I don't think it takes that long to plan a wedding unless you are trying to save enough money. This early you can set a budget and start making your guest list. You can try to book a venue but I'm not sure if places will book this early. I know venues around my area were only book a year out. You can always use the check list that WW provides to help you out.

I do not think you are crazy. I totally understand where you are coming from. I had a date that was further out too but we got excited and we pushed it up. I would not do a lot of planning this early tho. You don't want to have everything done and then just be waiting around for that date to come.

I would say for certain things, yes.

Most vendors aren't booking out that far yet. But you can definitely start reading reviews and making lists of which vendors you want to see/are in your budget.

Start your guest list and budget what you can afford

DO NOT ASK YOUR WEDDING PARTY YET! Relationships can change drastically in 3 years. That is the #1 planning advice I can give you right now lol

I wouldn't start until early next year. Most vendors aren't booking that early yet, that's more then 3 years away. Enjoy being engaged & start saving $ perhaps do research on must haves or put together an inspiration board etc, & start saving $.

I would wait a little bit. It's still too early. Also, you don't have a date until you book a venue. The date on here 10/10/20 may not be available when you go look. Save your money, set a budget and look at things to get ideas of what you want. Research venues and start touring maybe next year? We have a long engagement - 28 months- and it's been super helpful to save and plan. Good luck!

Definitely early for you, my mom thought I was crazy too though despite the fact I had 13 months to our date.

Yes too early to plan, like book vendors, find a dress etc. Buy not too early to look. You have the benefit of time so you can create your favs list and track certain sales patterns for wedding gear. Save that $$$ for sure.

At this point, the only thing I would plan is saving the money for the wedding. Fortunately you are far enough out that it shouldn't be too much of a stressful item.

As PP have said, it might be too early to book vendors, etc depending on popularity. I booked my venue 2 years out, and my major vendors a couple of months after. Also, because I booked my venue early, I saved money because I got the 2016 price, instead of 2018!

The advantage to a long engagement is you have lots of time to research, make a budget/savings plan, and get to the vendors you want before they are booked up! And time will fly, it will be time to plan before you know it! For now, enjoy being engaged

It's probably too early to start signing contracts and booking a venue or other vendors. But, you could start looking at your budget and what you think your guest list will be. And maybe start researching venues in your area so you have a starting point for what prices will be. Prices will most likely change by your wedding, but you can rule out ones that are out of budget. You could also start talking about what aspects and traditions are important for you both to incorporate. Then you'll have time to think about how to fit everything together when it's time to start finalizing plans.

This seems kind of dumb to me. You need 3.5 years to plan a wedding because you all are picky and high maintenance? How long have you known each other? My recommendation is to do pre-marriage counseling sooner rather than later to figure out if you actually want to get married and what's really important to you guys.

Never too early to try to get ideas but too early to really plan IMHO.

Too early. Just save money and enjoy being engaged!

Wait

I mean, I was in your shoes, but was comfortable enjoying my engagement, creating/enforcing a savings plan, and researching potential wedding venues.

That's really all you can do at this point

I couldn't take 3 years to plan a wedding if I tried.

You can't even book most vendors this early. Maybe start looking for a venue (since you don't have a date until you have a venue) but you still might have trouble with that.

You can start casually "looking" at things but you can't realistically plan anything.

From your post, it sounds like you're only having such a long engagement because you feel that you need that much time to plan. If you think it's too early to plan for an October 2020 wedding, just move the date up and start planning now. Keep in mind a lot of vendors won't let you book until a year or 2 in advance.

Seems way too early to me. I'm curious did you pick the date because of the "cutesy-ness" of it? That's the furthest out I've seen. You'll be a whole new person in almost 4 years, lots of time to change your mind about things you plan this early.

I think it is too early to book anything, but as far planning and thinking about what you want and figuring out the price, you are golden.

I had been planning my wedding for 2 years. Look around see what you like. I mean you may not be able to book places. But look at venues see what's out there. Have fun. And it's a lot less stress on you. And when you think your done your not lol.