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Kaylacamille
Dedicated June 2019

Invited to the Shower but no the Wedding!

Kaylacamille, on January 12, 2019 at 12:15 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7
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Hi all! We are having a small family/close friends only wedding (100 people, my family is HUGE). We are having a wedding shower, can we invite friends who aren’t invited to the wedding? We aren’t necessarily expecting gifts, just want a way to celebrate with everyone we can’t invite since my family is so big!

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Latest activity by M, on January 12, 2019 at 9:37 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    The purpose of a shower is to "shower" the couple or the bride with gifts. You may say you're not expecting gifts, but people are going to bring them. It's rude to invite anyone to the shower who isn't invited to the wedding.

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  • Sarah
    Dedicated June 2019
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    I agree with Caytlyn. I think it’s rude to Invite to that shower but not the wedding. My best friend did this and people were very upset.
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  • Kenisha
    Champion June 2019
    Kenisha ·
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    That’s super rude. No, don’t invite people to the shower and not the wedding.
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  • Kaylacamille
    Dedicated June 2019
    Kaylacamille ·
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    Ok, good to know! I thought it might be kinda rude but it was my FH mother’s idea. Is there some sort of a party that we can throw for friends who want to celebrate with us?
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  • Augusta
    Dedicated February 2020
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    Maybe host an after party?
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  • A
    Dedicated April 2021
    Allyson ·
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    Throw a “reception” like party the next weekend for your friends. It could be as simple as a tea or brunch, but if it’s a small wedding your friends should understand.
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  • M
    Expert September 2018
    M ·
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    Inviting people to a shower and not giving them an invite to the ceremony seems rude and like a gift grab (even if that's not your intentions)
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