I love him to life but how do I tell him?????

I totally agree that this is all about how you deliver the message. How about something like, Honey I want to run out for a few minutes for a few personal things, we will (fill in the blank) have dinner, watch a movie, catch the news, when I get back, no just a few minutes and I will be right back. Or I need to make a few calls tp my mom, or sister, or best friend, okay if I step away for a few minutes, be right back?

Umm tried that (lol). Let me say this..this isnt new he has always been like this but it seems lately its worse. Im not complaining Im happy he thinks of me that much, but just need some "me" time..sometime! Not a lot just a few minutes lol.

I hope Brian C has some input here, he is really good at these questions.

Hmm ya this is touchy, having "me" time is definitely important..does your hubby have any interests that you two don't share? maybe you can make opportunities for these somehow..or does he have friends other than yours that you can try to organize a get together for? Although rather than passively creating opportunities for you to be by yourself or him by his self, I'd say communicate how you feel to him, tactfully..I think what you stated in your most recent post seemed gentle enough (then again I don't know him!). make sure you do say something though about how you love spending time with him. Good luck! :-)

It is very important to set these boundaries now at the beginning so it does not become a pattern. You need to just sit him down and have a talk about needed a little myself time so that you do not lose yourself, the yourself that he feel in love with. He needs this same time to himself to continue to grow and develop to be the person that you feel in love with. You do not want to end up smothering him you want him always to know that he can go out with his friends to a game or to play pool or to watch a game At the same time, you need to know that you can go with your Mom and your girlfriends, shopping or to catch a chick/movie and it will be ok with him. Be sure to direct the talk at him doing all this too.

Time to find couple friends and get him some guy friends of his own. If you don't, you'll be spending a lot of time hiding out in the bathroom which I did for the first few yrs of our relationship because it's the one place he won't follow me. lol

Our photographer gave us these couples coupons... one of them is for an hour of 'alone time.' There are several versions available online... if you got a set for each of you as a fun 'anytime' gift over a romantic dinner, you might be able to slip it in... just make sure he has the same coupons you do. A bubble bath that he runs and sets up candles for is also a good one that gets you some 'me' time.

@LutaWolf now that is funny! lol

Thanks everyone, I am so happy I asked this question because I didnt think of alot of this. Thank you so much. I love the coupon idea, I am looking it up now!

I had an exbf like that. My Honey knows not to lurk or hover, especially in the kitchen as I have the habit of turning around with knives in my hands from living and cooking alone for so long. He knows he could be accidentally stabbed if he stays too close. He also knows he will enjoy our us time more if I have some me time first. I think the other women gave some great advice, you could try my method but I wouldn't recommend walking around with knives in your hands though! haha

Ask him to run to the store and get you something while you stay home and then run away.. jk

Maybe.. tell him that you love spending time with him and really love how much he cares about you but sometimes we (women) don't even know what we want (haha.. not a lie here). there are times you need some alone so you can plan new things to do with/for him (small surprises or something like that).

Just tell him straight up what you need. It'll hurt for a little bit but he'll grow up and get over it.

What about booking a "girlie day" and go do something you know he'd not want to participate in, like going to the spa? Or, I like the idea of "coupons". Give him and you a bunch of coupons, like "one massage" and "candlelight dinner" and some naughty ones, and slip in there some coupons for "1 hour of alone time" stuff like that. If it doesn't work, you just mihgt need to be gentle and up front with him. He should be mature enough to understand.

@ staci. p

i hope things go smoothly when you let him no how you feel & also i read on @Katebonnykate post about the coupon book thing.. you can easily find these at a book store & hallmark cards store. i know hallmark sells them during valentines hope this helps take care

He's excited Staci he's a married man. He might be scared that someone might steal you...lol

Have you suggested a girls night? or a guys night? that way you both get your time away from each other. You sometimes need that so you still miss being around each other