How to not cry

I'd like to know about this too! I also start to tear up when I think about my dad giving me away and the father/daughter dance. It doesn't help that my dad said he got emotional just looking at titles of father/daughter dance songs, so I have the feeling we'll both be blubbering messes.

I seriously get so confused when people say this, honestly I hope we are both sobbing messes, I think showing genuine emotion at the ceremony is so beautiful and I think I’d actually be disappointed if we didn’t cry!

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I mean, I want to cry but I don't want to be sobbing uncontrollably lol.

I cry at OTHER PEOPLE'S events, is that weird? like I watch proposal videos and wedding videos and get all misty (I mean, I cry watching SYTTD for pete's sake) but my own proposal? Nope. Bone dry. Finding my dress? Not a drop. So weird! Thinking about my dad and the wedding itself I get all misty eyed and weepy, but why do I feel like I won't cry a tear based on my history? lol.

BUT, that said, when I'm trying to keep it together I bite the tip of my tongue (also do that when I get a tattoo, but that's neither here nor there lol) so I have a feeling I'll either not cry a single tear...or my tongue will be swollen by the end of the night! Either way, I'm making sure I get waterproof everything with my makeup!

View Quoted Comment Haha that is fair. I don’t have great tips, I’ve kinda just accepted that we probably both will be messes, we both started crying while watching other people’s videos done by our videographer lol

And sorry didn’t mean for that first post to sound hostile or anything I was just wondering :p

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You're fine! I just don't want to ruin my makeup completely or have the pictures turn out bad because I'm crying too much lol.

I am an emotional mess at every wedding, at my own, not a tear shed. I don't know what happened but I was so caught up in everything that I didn't focus on myself at all and I think it helped a ton.

View Quoted Comment Haha I totally get it. Can you have your makeup artist stay through the ceremony maybe to touch it up after the ceremony/before picturea?

When we first got engaged I would sob thinking about it. Im a very emotional person. The close we get though I think I'll be OK

The father daughter dance though man that song is atearcjerker!

Tear jerker

View Quoted Comment I experienced the same thing. I’m very emotional, and definitely shed tears at all my friends/family members weddings, but no tears at mine. Being in the moment helped a lot.

We did a first look for our wedding and I think it helped me stop from sobbing so much during the ceremony. My poor husband sobbed at the first look and during most of the ceremony, so it didn't do him any good, lol. But for me, I actually didn't cry much during the ceremony besides when I recited my vows. Some of the pictures that they captured of my husband crying was rather sweet, and while I tease him about it, it absolutely warms my heart. If you're having a wedding party, make sure whoever is standing next to you carries some kleenex! Nothing is wrong with crying

I get emotional when I watch commercials, haha. I thought I'd probably be a mess especially because I was PMSing, but I wasn't. My emotions were excitement and joy and I couldn't stop smiling! Yeah we got choked up during our vows and again when we danced but just for a bit. You're up there for kind of a long time (15-30 minutes), so you may be emotional wrecks at first, but I bet you'll regain your composure for some of it.

I was crying a lot at our wedding. So was my husband. I think the best way is to keep breathing. Honestly, once I let go and just let myself cry freely, it felt better and, while I haven't gotten pics back yet, I think my face looked better because I wasn't screwing it up trying not to cry. I don't regret crying though. I brought a handkerchief with me and dabbed at my eyes as necessary.

Oddly, for months before my wedding, every time I would hear the song I walked in to or the song my cousins were singing I would start crying. On my wedding day, I heard them practicing and started crying BUT during my actual ceremony, I just got a bit teary eyed is all. We did do a first look which I think helped and I do think listening to the songs so many times ahead of the day and envisioning everything helped a lot too. I think when you're in the moment you do react differently than you think you will. I was really just excited and not overly emotional like I thought i would be.

Https://www.essilorusa.com/newsroom/how-to-stop-crying-7-easy-tips-for-tear-control
has some good tips. Make sure you have a pretty hankerchief to sop up any stray tears. You can also use it hide some of the tips i.e. pinching your nose or pressing on your lower eyelids (another tip I found that can prevent the tears from welling up).

I have the exact same issue, but for different reasons. We just found out my dad has throat cancer (dont ever smoke kids. Its not worth it!!). I cry because i dont know if my dad will be able to help walk me down the aisle. Its devastating. If someone knows the secret to stopping the waterworksor keeping them at a minimum, please tell me.
Lately though, i have been watching those try not to cry videos on youtube. I figure if i can desensitize myself, it might help.

I dont' have advice for you but I can commiserate! At my wedding, I even cried walking down the aisle, lolol. I barely got to see what my ceremony space looked like, heh.

I wish I had advice for you! Just listening to the song that I am walking down the aisle to makes me get teary eyed. There is no hope for me when I get to the point of reciting my vows. lol

I'm just going to try and breathe thru it. lol

Nope! lol sorry.

I was doing pretty well until I was half-way through my vows. Seeing my husband balling as I was walking down the isle was super sweet and touching and I did start tearing up a bit, I just tried to bask in the glory of the moment, if that makes sense. But it was all over soon... I couldn't make it through my vows without crying. Then he started crying, then my uncle/officiant started crying! Ugh. But it was so super sweet.