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Mrs.B
VIP August 2013

Friend(kind of)/co-worker has the nastiest attitude and I dont know if I want her at the wedding! Advice pleas

Mrs.B, on May 2, 2013 at 2:17 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 19

Backstory: We worked together 3 years ago, I'm a hairstylist and she's a receptionist. We became friends quickly. I moved to another salon and she stayed at the old one. We still remained friends throughout the years but not as close but were always friendly to each other.

My friend opened a salon that I help run with him. She actually ended up loosing her job. Well the good friend that I am, offered her a position at my current salon. She took it.

Ever since she took it, I've gotten nothing but attitude and dirty looks from her. I confronted her twice now and she keeps telling me everything is just dandy. Ummm no its not!

I don't know if she's intimidated or what but this is not going to fly with me. My friend/owner says that's why he doesn't want to get real close with her because she has a strange personality, and I see this now.

So now I'm stuck because she did receive a STD but as of right now, we are not friends in my eyes. We don't hang out outside of work anymore or anything

19 Comments

Latest activity by Mrs.B, on May 2, 2013 at 3:11 PM
  • Candice B.
    Master July 2013
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    Don't invite her...ain't nobody got time for that attitude.

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  • Almost Mrs. P
    Super June 2013
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    I wouldn't invite her, and I wouldn't feel bad or stress about that decision either.

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  • Mrs.B
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    ...so frankly I don't really want someone there is so ungrateful and bitchy to me. And yes I still did not receive any kind of thank you for getting her a job. Plus my boss is matching what she made before...I don't get it!!!? Any advice ladies?

    P.S. I did already talk to her about it twice and its still the same.

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  • Mrs.B
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    Even tho we work together and everyone I work with IS invited? Wouldn't that make the situation worse?

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  • Chelle
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    I have one of these too. I don't have any advice because I'm in the same boat!

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  • HisMrs
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    Have your friend fire her sorry butt! Then you won't be co-workers any more Smiley smile

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  • Mrs.B
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    The messed up thing is every now and then she'll be normal to me and then BAM attitude!

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  • Mrs.B
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    @chelle- Is she still invited?

    @hismrs- He wont because she is a really good receptionist and clients love her. Boooo

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  • Corina
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    If you feel you are not friends right now, then she is probably having the same feeling and it is no secret. I wouldn't send the invitation. Same thing happened with me and a long time friend from high school (10+ years), we have the same friends, but it is very clear we tolerate each other. I am not going to invited someone I tolerate.

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  • Almost Mrs. P
    Super June 2013
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    If she has attitude toward you on a normal day, my guess is that she'll really have attitude when she sees you as a bride, and the center of attention. Then you're going to have a real monster on your hands. I imagine her as the type to get hammered at the reception and make an idiot of herself...but that is completely just how I'm envisioning it Smiley smile

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  • Celia Milton
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    Don't bother. This is how weddings get to be 200 guests and half of them are texting the whole time because they'd rather be elsewhere.

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  • Linda
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    I definately would not invite her at that point. And maybe consider "letting her go"

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  • Mrs.B
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    @ corina- your so right, I can totally see that happening too.

    So if she asks, after the invites are sent...what do I say? I really don't want this to be anymore awkward than it already is.

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  • Candice B.
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    Well, just ask her if she wants to come and see what her answer is.

    Just be like "Do you still want to come to my wedding? Because lately it seems like you have a problem with me, and I'm not quite sure why?" (I know I'm terrible. Reenski will probably be better at giving you "what to say" advice), but something along those lines.

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  • Mrs.B
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    @Linda- He wont fire her because shes really good at her job.

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  • HisMrs
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    Ok. You said sometimes she's fine and then sometimes she cops an attitude. Which means she DOES know how to be decent. If you were to invite her just to keep the peace, chances are she would be totally fine at the wedding. What guest would get rude with the bride on her wedding day? She HAS to know that will only make her look like an incredible Bword!

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  • Mrs.B
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    Yea ur right but I don't even know if I want to spend the money on her to come to the wedding when I have other people that would love to be there. I guess ill invite her and hopefully she declines lol

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  • Nancy Taussig
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    Don't give her a plus one and hope that she declines because she doesn't want to come alone.

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  • Mrs.B
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    That's a good one Nancy! She does have a boyfriend that I've never even met but they live together. I think it just might work!

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