Dumb question but not really sure

I have seen it done both ways. Usually when the bride in groom has paid it was because they want a specific look that is pricey or if they know that the parents just can't afford it.

I too have seen it done both ways. My boys were in two weddings one summer and each time the bride or groom's parents payed (without my knowledge). It was a very kind gesture for this poor single mom

My 2 yr old nephew is going to be our ring bearer and what we did is put the choice on the parents wether it be they put him in a suit or a nice outfit. We actually opted for a nice outfit so he doesn't get a suit dirty

Just be careful with buying to soon for kids because their growing and fitting changes so much even within a couple of months

I have two 4 yr old ring bearers and no flower girl. I bought the suspenders and bow tie (plum color, so it will be rare if they wear them again before they outgrow them). My mom says it is hard to find shorts (August wedding, din't want hot/cranky little boys) to fit both their body types (one is really slender, the other is chunky), so she's going to make them. I'll buy the material. I'm just asking the parents to get a white shirt.

eta: we are covering ALL BP clothing costs because those we want do not have he funds to do so themselves.

I always thought the parents of the kids pay for it. Our FG is using a dress that was a hand me down from a dance outfit her sister had. Her mom is crafty and changed the sash and beading to fit in with my colors. Our RB is renting a tux. We found out through word of mouth that FH's parents are paying for his and his fathers( a groomsman) tux rentals because that family has been having a hard time but didn't want to say anything to us. I guess it's kinda whatever works for the situation everyone is in.

I thought the parents of the children paid for it. I tried to be budget concious though by choosing a dress off of etsy for the girls and just a white shirt, grey slacks and suspenders for the boys. When looking at the major stores, both FG dresses and RB tuxes were like $75 and up, which just seemed insane for a child

We bought our FG dress but not out RB suits, because we gave the parents (who are twin brothers) the option of matching the big guys or wearing a nice pants and shirt. They chose suit, we would have bought the nice matching outfits for them.

I'm buying the dresses & accessories for the girls and bowties for the boys (5 girls, 3 boys.) The boys probably already own black dress pants & white button up shirts.

I feel like it is so patronising that people ask that other people pay to be in your wedding & to just tell them what you could afford. Not everyone is doing well financially & they shouldn't have to tell you their financial situation just to be in your wedding.

My grandma is going to pay for my ring bearer and one of my flower girls dresses since they are my cousins but I am expecting my FSIL to pay for my other flower girl dress since its her daughter. Idk I feel like it's the same concept as the rest of the bridal party. They all pay for there own attire.

I got a hella good deal on my fg dresses so I just paid for them myself. Check online at Macys!! Found mine for $35, originally $99

I told the flower girls' parents that they can buy their dresses. I had considered buying them, but my 2 girls live out of state. So it was impractical for me, as I do not know what will fit them or look good on them.

I paid for the flower girl dresses. Originally I made up my mind to do it because I figured what I would eventually pick out would end up being pricey and one of the girl's father was the best man and his tux rental was really pricey...and the other flower girl's sister was a BM and her mom paid alot for her dress so I wanted to take some of the burden off of both of them. I ended up finding a really good deal on Etsy for the dresses though, so they didn't cost me a ton at all. I let the parents select the size and I placed the order and then shipped the dresses to them when they arrived. Both needed some alteration done and the parents paid for that.

We are paying for our flower girls. One is FH's niece and the other is my niece (MOH's daughter). Ring bearers are my two nephews (MOH's sons) and I think our mother will cover those.

The dresses are $50.

We had 2 flowergirls (husband's granddaughters) and the parents paid for the dresses. They got to choose them. Our only stipulation was that they be white. They got them in the spring on clearance. They also purchased the shoes. But both the shoes and dresses were something the girls would wear later.

Okay. I was going to talk to the mother on Sunday so I suppose I'll let her know that I'm not looking at something majorly expensive. It's hard because our flower girl will be 12 when we get married. I already told the parents of our ring bearer that I don't want him to wear a suit and nice dress pants and a nice shirt is fine. We'll probably offer to pay for the dress shirt.

Our RB and FG are our kids so....both? Lol

Sorry, not helpful.

In past weddings I've been in if they needed a specific dress/ suit then the couple pays, if it's just a nice outfit the parents pay.

I paid for all 3 (2 flower girls and 1 ring bearer). But I've seen both ways.

I plan to ask my FHs sister if her daughter will walk in our wedding by giving her the dress. It was only $40... So I was happy to buy it. Plus it matches what I envisioned for her, so it's a win/win!