Does size really matter?

For my first wedding I had 160 guests. It was my dream wedding but not a good marriage.

I am now planning a small intimate wedding with 35 guests with my FH. I am able to spend more on little details because the reception is not costing me so much.

Have the wedding that makes you both happy.

Thanks @Celia! Maybe I should not assume my opinions are not popular until I get flack! Lol

I always wonder why people dream their whole life about a one-day event. Seriously, did you dream about your college graduation? Or the day you had your first child?

That being said, you need to think about what your priorities are now, not what you dreamed about when you were 5. You probably dreamed about being a firefighter (or a princess) back then, but that doesn't mean those are your career choices now.

I loved my small wedding. I had 48 people at my wedding and wish I would've cut it down by at least 4 more people lol

Do what makes you happy!! Seriously, if it's stressing you out or giving you anxiety, you're not going to enjoy it. Who cares what other ppl think? At the end of the day, it's about you and your FH. Everyone else is just happy to be there, to have been included in your special event.

@2dBride I did dream about my college grad!! Lol

This is hard for others to answer for you-- the question is really how *you* will feel about it. WIll you always feel like you got robbed, or will you be able to enjoy who *is* there and not focus on what you missed? I would hope you could throw the wedding you can afford and enjoy it, but if that's just not 'you' (and it really isn't in some people's personality...) maybe you want to push off the wedding date and save?

I'm having a small wedding.. 360... If our parents had their way it would be double lmao

My point is - whatever works for you and FH. The most memorable part is actually saying I do

I had about 200 at my wedding and I'm glad I did. I think having all those witnesses there makes calling it quits when the going gets tough a lot more difficult.

If you have the money it, cut somewhere else and allot some money for a wedding planner. That'll allow you to have the big wedding with less stress.

Taking time to breath and relax can help you decide better. I have had to do that. Taking time to look at who you really want to celebrate with you and what you really want. I have been blessed this time with a lot of help and it has made a difference. If you can't get help, find a way to get a wedding planner like Nessa said.

@Love in PR: At age 5? LOL

Go for it!

Witnesses make it harder to call off?

I'm sorry, that's strange.

It's what you want that matters. If you want to put it off and extend planning or save that's fine if that's what you want. I'm having my dream wedding with mostly friends as guests who've been there for us instead of a lot of family I don't know

Small is good! Go with whatever you feel comfortable hosting. My friend had 12 people at her wedding and it was intimate and lovely. My FH and I created a guest list separately of people we absolutely wanted there, then came together. We are inviting around 115 people, and we are happy with the number.