Does size really matter?

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Hahaha...LOVE the post title! Personally I think when you look back on the wedding, no size doesn't matter. I have been married before and once the day is over there are memories from the day but they don't stay as exciting as the dreams of the wedding beforehand. I'm guessing my perspective may not be a popular one though.

Small is good...it;s just a matter a preference. Would you be ok with giving up your "dream" wedding for something on a smaller scale? Make it what you want it to be because at the end of the, big or small, you'll still be Mr & Mrs Love in PR. Good luck with your planning and Congrats!!

I wanted as small of a wedding as possible, and at a 60 headcount I still wish it was smaller, lol. I'm all for intimate, immediate family weddings of 30 or less, but my SO has a very large family and a ton of friends.

We're having a small wedding (invited 85, anticipating 60-70) and what you're describing is absolutely acceptable! Do whatever is going to make you and your FH happy! If you're worried you might regret it then expand the guest list a bit (maybe try to stay under 50).

My parents had 225 guests. When it was all over, my mother remarked that she wished they only invited the number of guests who would fit in the choir stalls, in the front of their church.

My sister married the year before me and had 225 guests. We fell in love with a venue that held 100 (hosted 95). My mother was thrilled. She served as our planner, as well as my sister's, and is extremely well organized, and had no issues with the planning. Only the costs were different; however, renting a venue, hiring a band, and booking photographers were all fixed costs. regardless of the size of our guest lists.

I always wanted a small wedding, but I knew it would never happen. Do whatever feels right to you, but honestly I haven't found planning a big wedding to be any extra stress. Either way hire good vendors and you'll save yourself a lot of stress!

I would say it's about who you want to celebrate with. A smaller wedding is definitely easier to arrange. I thought I wanted an intimate wedding, but then I realized how important it was for me to include my extended family and friends. In the end my wedding was 120 people (over 200 invited) and it was the perfect size. Do what feels right for you.

I think a small wedding sounds great!

I am seeing a trend towards smaller weddings with our couples. Our elopement division (using the term loosely to mean under 20) does tons of weddings; sometimes 12 on a weekend. I love the smaller weddings and they do have a totally different feeling than bigger ones.

This isn't to say that the big ones aren't fun!! They are, but they are different. And while people say that they want to include their giant families and groups of friends, the reality of the day is that once you get to 100 or more, you have 30 seconds to spend with them. It's a trade off, and it's worth giving some thought.

There is also this idea that people will be insulted if they don't get invited. That's not necessarily true, and if it is, they'll get over it. If you invite your immediate (like parents, siblings and s/o's) and your very best friends, it's easier to understand why it's small (as if you needed to justify it, which you don't).

Of course, money is a factor. A smaller group means smaller bills in the biggest category ; food and drink. And favors. And flowers. And invites.

And Uny is right; there have actually been studies that show the anticipation of the event (wedding, vacation, etc) is equal if not better than the event itself.

So do what you want, taking into account the money, the stress before and during, and what really fits your personality and anxiety level.

I think that if we all sat down and looked at our guest list of who is most important to us, there would be a lot of intimate weddings(75 people or less). But a lot of times we feel we have to invite everyone like family you haven't talked to in years cause they are family, your Co workers who you don't talk to because you work with them, people that invited you to their wedding and then comes your parents. If they are paying for it or partially paying they have people they want to invite that you more than likely don't know. So before you know it you have a big wedding. I would just say if a big wedding makes you happy, then just know there is a lot of planning to go into it and unless you have a planner or DOC it can get stressful and costly too. Intimate weddings are more personal, give you more options for venue places, and I have never heard someone regret having a smaller wedding. Also more stress free. I'm doing intimate wedding.

I envisioned a much bigger wedding before I actually started planning. The closer I get, the smaller and more intimate I want it to be.

I think size DOES matter. But not in the way you're thinking

Just kidding. Size doesn't matter. It's all about what you want. If the wedding of your dreams is a huge grand wedding, that's great. But a smaller wedding that's cute and simple could also make your dreams come true as well. It's all about the vendors you choose, how you execute it, and doing what makes you happy. Do whatever you'll be happy with in the future so there are no regrets and your day will be perfect, no matter the size

I have absolutely no desire to plan a big wedding or to say my "I dos" in front of people I barely know. we are having a wedding with about 50-60 guests and even planning that is a little overwhelming.

We're are planning a small wedding our guest list is around 60-70 and I know at least 10 won't show but we would like them there. The size of my wedding isn't my "dream wedding" my dream wedding is marrying my best friend, so I'm still having my dream wedding!

I wish I would have a had a smaller wedding. The guest count was 100 after final numbers but only 85/90 showed. Then for the reception we only had about 60. Long story as to why people left. If I could do it all over again, we would have invited thirty and had it at our favorite restaurant that we use to celebrate things.

Go small. On the desktop search function search for "why chose to do intimate wedding" or something like that. Great responses.

Big is good for other things . Your title got my attention too!

Size doesn't equate giving up your dream wedding. It doesn't mean less stress or less money. Our "dream wedding" was 45 guests. We still had all the bells and whistles of a "traditional" wedding. We spent 15k - it was the wedding we both wanted.

I never thought about size. I just knew I was going to have the same size weddings as everyone else in my family has which is big. I really didn't have a choice in the matter. My sister wanted a smaller wedding. It never happened. It wasn't worth the fight.

No. I think it's all about what you want. Some people have smaller families or small groups of friends while others have large families (and in some cultures it's customary to invite everyone from the great-great aunt to the family doctor). Personally, I wouldn't want a super small wedding, but I also wouldn't want it so big that there people in attendance that I barely know or will keep in contact with after the fact.