Dislike my future last name

My FHs last name is Gross. 😶 I like my last name and am considering keeping it but I also like the idea of our future family having the same last name. He doesn’t care either way.

Mines changing from Kristal Rae Smith to Kristal Rae sides... I’m not a big fan but to save some stress probably legally change it but still use my last name for things. I mean most places ask if you’ve been known by any other names so I figure who cares if I still go by Smith?

Hey, at least you won’t be Mrs. Levi Cotton. Yes, that’s right. His mother named him after a JEAN and what they are made of. 😐😐😐

what kind of monster does that? 😂

If it’s important for both of you to have same last name & you don’t like his (I don’t blame you lol), why don’t you make a new last name by combining parts of your both last names? It will be a unique family name that’s only yours!
Another option: ask him to change his name to Adams. It’s 2019! Why do we always expect women to change their names?

I ALSO dislike my future last name haha. my last name is Crane and my fiancé’s is Murillo. I don’t think it goes at all with my first name... I’ve also joked about him taking my last name since I think it’s better suited to his first name haha I feel the same way though! I know I want to take his last name but it’ll just take time to grow accostmed to it.

I dislike mine lol it’s O’Dell. It made for a cute hashtag #TheWeddingOdellsAreRinging. (My mom came up with it lol) but mrs. O’Dell just sounds old and weird to me lol so luckily i don’t have a job that requires people to call me by my last name.

My first husbands last name is Liedlich (lead leck) I spent ten years explaining spelling correcting and pronouncing it he told me that I would grow to hate it...he was right lmbo but I'm keeping it and attaching it to new name. I feel like Tina Turner after she divorced Ike she said "I dont want anything except for my name I worked to hard for it" I feel the exact way. I'm known under this name I've made a business with it and the kids still have it so...

I'll be going from a Stephens to a Kumpf. My FH has had so many issues with his last name his whole life that he jokingly suggested that we combine our names to Stump to keep me having to through any of the same issues he has lol.
I'm taking the Kumpf name.

Mine is Broome lol so funny but I don't hate it. I think it'll be fun and make fun of it myself

Mine is Sheehy (She-He) haha and his is Hicks (but from his not in picture father whom he hates) so we are making our own last name!

Omg yes! My FH last name is Mulley
i really don’t like it...

You are not obligated to change your name. Tell your FI it is nothing personal and that is that. It’s the 21st Century for God’s Sake, if women don’t exert a spine now, WHEN will we???! It’s not like your kids won’t get his name. That should be enough. Anything beyond that is you doing him a favor that will take a lot of legwork on your part. Is any man worth THAT stress?!? He better agree with me that he isn’t!

Dislike my future name West at first I didn’t want a name that reminds me of a direction we agreed to Hyphenated to Burns-West but I didn’t like have to two names and we couldn’t come up with a new name all together so he agreed to take mines

I don’t dislike mine per se, but I have always been strong and independent. I will be 37 when I get married, so I have established a life and a career with my last name. FH is super traditional and just assumed I would take his, but I don’t particularly wish to. As many of you have said, I earned my degrees and my career success, not him. He said we should have the same last name to show that we are a family unit, so I suggested he could take my name and it was like I was suggesting he take out his own lungs and hand them to me. So I said if it’s so inconceivable for him to change his name, he can’t possibly expect me to.

Sorry to hear that! I have the opposite issue. My last name is Gutierrez (I’m Filipina) and have had issues with it my entire life. Soon, I’ll officially be Kaysee Castor (and my initials will be K.C. which I love!) As others have stated, it will grow on you for sure.

There was one point where FH mentioned that his dad’s last name used to be McWilliams (dad father’s last name) and dad changed last name to Castor (dad’s mother’s maiden name). So we toyed around with the idea but Chris and Kaysee McWilliams didn’t give us the same vibe as Chris and Kaysee Castor. I would’ve loved it either way though, just cuz it’s his. 😊❤️

Sarah,

I don’t hate Campbell’s last name; but I adore mine... I love Adams too! Because my last name is A-B-B, I was always first when things were sorted alphabetically, and in all honesty, it was a great perk. For example, I was called first at my high school graduation. I graduated a year early; didn’t know anyone else there, walked the stage and went to lunch. In addition, I’m the only child of my father and feel a need to carry it on. I really want us to hyphenate our names as Abbema-Mahaffey. I think it would symbolize a union, and I wouldn’t feel like I was losing a huge part of my identity. However, my FH does not, under any circumstances, want to change his name. What does your husband think? Would he be willing to take your last last name or would you mind having different last names? I think those will be the two defining factors in our decision.
Thanks for your post! I’ll have to put this discussion on my things-to-decide-before-the-wedding list.

I don’t dislike my fiancé’s last name at all, but I don’t think it sounds great with mine since it’s a very very common last name and my first name is unusual and cultural. I’m solving that problem by hyphenating.

My current last name is Dias which for the first 18 years of my life was my name other than my parents everyone in elementary school, high school and friends always called me by my last name. 7 other girls in my high school had the same first name so Dias basically became my identity. I'm almost 29 years old and still have people in my life who call me by my last name instead of my first.

That being said I love my FH's last name Chesney and will take it mostly for my future family but it will be a struggle to get people who have been in my life so many years to not call me by my old last name anymore!

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That is exactly my issue! So you are keeping your maiden and hyphenating with his last name? I was thinking about doing that cuz my name and FH's last name just sounds so weird together lol

I don't dislike FH's last name by itself, but I don't think my first name goes well with it Brittany Lloyd...meh. Maybe it's just because I've had the same name all my life and this is just really different sounding. But even though I don't think it sounds the best (right now), I am so over the moon to be changing my name to his. It is a huge honor to me.