And now, from left field...

I would talk to him. Is your FH the type who goes along to get along, and then later decides he wants something different? Like, you want pizza for dinner, he says pizza sounds fine, and five minutes after you order the pizza he says he really rather would have had Chinese?

If so, I'd stop taking "it's cool" as carte blanche, and ask him to come back to you later with a firm decision.

Just let him know where your coming from and then ask him why he was ok before and wants to change now. Men I tell you are pains in the rear but we love them lol

Maybe compromise with a nice park. I'm sorry he blindsided you with this one.

Awwww, that would bum me out too!!! Especially if he said let's get it over with. It sounds like you want the celebration (big or small, I'm not familiar with your specifics). I think you deserve it! Maybe just tell him how important it is for you to celebrate this day. My FH is the same....ballroom or courthouse, as long as we're married. He just doesn't see a reason to celebrate things sometimes. But I certainly do....so we are haha. I hope you can have your zoo wedding, that sounds awesome

I'm sorry hun. Know you've had a lot of drama so far and this was the solution. Just sit down and talk with him and explain your reasons. Honestly this seems like it was the compromise solution. Tell him while you don't want the drama that is being associated with a big wedding that doesn't mean you just want to go to the court house either. Good luck! Keep us informed

When he has an opinion, he's pretty vocal about it. That's why I don't know where this came from. I tried to come up with a few places that would fit us, and asked him what his preference is, or someplace I hadn't thought of.

And, yeah, we'll sit down and talk this evening.

*edit* And since I it's going to be just us and the kids, I really want something a little special.

My FH and I are eloping as well. We looked up elopement packages at hotels in the area and are going with one of those. we are still having both sets of parents there. Maybe you guys could do something like that?

I would definitely compromise on this one. I'm sure the two of you could find a happy medium between the zoo and the courthouse.

good luck!!

This close to the wedding? geesh I would be pissed too. yea I mean I dont know if its too late but maybe a park?

Just explain that it would be important to you to do it this way. He will understand.

If he knows why you feel that way, maybe he'll think the zoo will work just fine. If not, I hope you can find a happy medium!

Has he been married before? Mine was, and so in the beginning he didn't want to have a wedding reception with food and guests. He changed his mind when I pointed out that his first wedding was in a castle in Europe and I'm not asking for that with my first (and only, I hope) wedding.

My FH was vague at the beginning of our engagement of what he wanted. So I started getting prices of places that intrigued me for our small wedding. Once he finally said courthouse with xx budget, I had something to work with. I wanted a small intimate ceremony and reception, he said courthouse. Vegas is our happy medium. But I make sure it wasn't a drive thru

Yes talk to him. My FH and I are about 2 months out from our wedding day and at the beginning and still to this day he makes comments about how we should have just had a destination wedding. I tell him that I am an only child and everyone in my family and his went to the court house, so I want something different and more traditional for us. He goes along with it but I tell him he isn't helping with adding to my planning stress lol.

If you have put deposits down and you may be able to get it back definitely talk to him and let him know "hey now's the time to figure this out so we can decide what we are going to do." But tell him this is a big deal to you.

Wow. That's seems pretty unfair of him to just spring this on you. I'm sure it will all work out for the best. I'd start by opening a very honest dialog explaining, without anger, how you feel and what you want. I'm sure a compromise will present itself.

I totally understand where he's coming from, but it's too late to change your mind. FH has never been married before and he wanted the whole shebang. He's getting it and I'm fine with it (I'm even footing the bill), but it's your basic "sh*t or get off the pot" situation. (sorry for being blunt). I'm guessing that at this point your friends and family are aware that you're getting married, and are expecting an invite. If, initially, it was my decision, we too would have eloped.

That is so hard.

Sit down and talk together. Be fully engaged in the conversation. Be honest and share your feelings about the situation, and allow him to do the same. Maybe there is more to it than it just being "silly" to him.

In situations like this it is crucial to be open and honest.

Good luck!