Am i wrong?

She agreed to be in a wedding where kids weren't allowed and now she is trying to force her kid in at the last minute. Not cool. You can offer to help her find a sitter or you can be ok with her not attending. That's about it. You shouldn't feel bad at all for her trying to slide this past you at the last minute in the hopes that you'd let it fly. This is just wrong.

I wouldn't cave and let her bring her child. She knew beforehand that her child wasn't allowed and still agreed to be in the wedding party. It's hectic the day of a wedding, and I wouldn't want a screaming 2 year old there making it worse. Just because she's in the wedding party doesn't mean her child should be allowed if no other children will be there.

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I'm not sure why any of you think that being a bridesmaid entitles you to bring your kids, when no other kids are invited. It definitely does not. That is not a thing. "No kids" means no kids. Period. Not, no kids except the children of wedding party members. Inviting your SO or giving you a plus one if you're single? Yes, of course. But kids? NOPE. And it's MOST DEFINITELY not the couple's responsibility to provide childcare for wedding party members either.

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I definitely agree with this.

As a mom, there are some things that I have to opt out of or "miss out on" because my child is MY responsibility. It's a big part of parenting, to lean that your preshus is not welcome everywhere and sometimes you have to make the decision to stay home.

OP, if you are only worried about the toddler attending the extra activities, just make that part abundantly clear. I think for this particular situation, you are doing the right thing by extending an invite to the child to the reception.

View Quoted Comment OP said the BM had made arrangements with her sister to take care of her daughter...but she's changed her mind last minute. Sounds to me like BM knew exactly what she was getting into.

I'd just tell her you aren't having any kids, and you've already told the venue that. You could even lie and say you can't change it now that you've said it, or you've told the bar there are no kids so you can't add kids. Even a well behaved child would be bored at the reception by themselves, much less a child that can't behave. What is the child doing for the dinner, brunch or ceremony? I think if her friend is watching her child then, she can watch her for the 4 additional reception hours. I'd stand your ground, you can't add kids to an adults-only reception at the last minute. She's a guest, she shouldn't even be asking.

No, sorry. You said no kids and she will not be tending to the child. I can see it now. The kid screaming during the ceremony as the mom is standing up at the front. That has been the scene at a few of the weddings the last couple of years. Grrrrrrrrrr....sorry, I am sick of the kids at weddings ordeals and issues. Have some respect people. When a host of an event...wedding or what not...and says no kids, it is not your option to question them. This chaps my hide so bad. I would never have the nerve to insist or push the envelope that my children be allowed to come after being told that children were not invited. I find it incredibly rude. If it is your event, invite as many kids as you want, but do not question others about their events. She has had more than enough time to come up with childcare for this event. 2-3 year olds are the worst, hands down. I just cannot believe that here in the 11th hour she is doing this. You had a year to figure this out! Seriously. NO, you are not wrong, you have every right to be livid.

View Quoted Comment Since when did you become a know it all about weddings. ALL weddings are different. DON'T speak for everyone's personal choices just because they dont align with what you "think" is right.

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Personal choice is one thing, but I don't think it's a precedent that you have to allow your BP to bring their children, particularly if it's been made known well in advance that it's adult's only and the BP has agreed to that.

Hey there! Congrats on your marriage! How did everything go?

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Thanks!

She was pushing the issue until the last minute, but I stayed firm.

However, she admitted that she knew it would of been a bad idea for her to bring her daughter as soon as she was at the airport.

The whooollle weekend would of been different if her daughter would of came. This particular bridesmaid REALLY stepped up and was everywhere. This wouldnt have happened if she had to tend to her daughter without help.