Alcohol- No great story started with a salad

My venue provides the bar staff, equipment but i have to bring my own alcohol which is driving me crazy cause im not sure how much to bring.

Youre very right @shaybird I have come.to find out that there isn't a lot of support on this app at all...instead we are judging fellow brides and degrading their choices for their wedding...that we will never attend... That has absolutely nothing at all to do with us...I will defiantly be removing myself from this app and consider myself very lucky for the people I have in my life...lucky for me there won't won't be any drunk people at my wedding..

Jessica lucky for me there will plenty of drunk people at my wedding.

A pretty great perk we having using FH's union hall is that we can purchase alcohol wholesale through the union. We will certainly be taking advantage! As your venue if they allow it.

We would have but our caterer only serves their own

Typical...non-controversial thread asking for advice on supplying alcohol goes up. One relevant response, two relevant responses, etc., etc., etc. The OP has no problem with what's being said -- her question is being answered...and then..."I'm telling my guests to BYOB". Here we go --again. Somebody needs their poor hosting validated. They say, "We live in an area where everyone brings their own alcohol everywhere they go" to "only 30 out of 150 people coming to our wedding drink". Then, it's about paycheck to paycheck living. Newsflash -- if you're an adult living paying to paycheck, you can't afford to host a wedding of any kind. Paycheck to paycheck means when you're done with the rent, the groceries, and the other necessities, you've got nothing left. You can still get married, of course, but you should think long and hard before you visit your paycheck to paycheck reality on your family and friends and call it a six hour party.

And I could swear that a certain individual who posted on this thread and said she isn't serving alcohol because children will be in attendance wrote the same thing a few days ago on a deleted thread -- except she was hosting a cash bar on that thread. Either way, it's an etiquette fail. I know it's all about the children, but they won't be at the after-party, so why not host that part of the day?

Jessica, the OP got some great input, and she seems grateful. Was there any need for you to tell her to do what she wants because you're sure someone will tell what she's doing is wrong? She's not doing it wrong; she hosting. She getting the logistics of hosting together -- not trying to get out of it. They're hardly the same things.

I'm most likely doing this because the only bartending company that I'm interested in around here that also buys the alcohol isn't responding to my emails. We're planning on doing three beer options, three wine options, and a mimosa bar. It will be a lot cheaper, and I can pick whatever beers and wines I want.

@Jessica, I think you meant 'definitely".

99% of all decisions to skip hosted alcohol comes down to cheapness; not kids present, not entire families who either don't drink or become crazed monsters because they drink too much, not 'it's possible to have a good time without it.'

It's cheapness, plain and simple. And almost no one, except your fellow misers, will give you support for that.

There is, indeed, a wedding bible. It's called Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette. You can also check out Ms. Manners on Weddings.

I wish we could bring our alcohol in! My mom's family owns a vineyard and we have other longtime family friends who own a label. We are having our venue purchase that wine for us, but it would have been much easier for us to just purchase it ourselves!