Discouraged about weight for wedding

I've found a few things have helped me and maybe they'll be helpful for you:
- I don't drink my calories. So, for me that means sugary drinks (coffee drinks, juice, soda, alcohol).
- I started just moving my body. Originally, I would take a walk after work to de-stress from the day. Then it became a habit and I realized that I enjoyed it early in the morning instead. - I started forgiving myself. It's the hardest but most freeing part. I used to look in the mirror and only see all the things I hated about my body. I decided to focus instead on the things I did like (my hair, my eyes, my boobs). When I walked, if I felt like I didn't want to I would allow myself a break or a shorter walk or whatever I needed and didn't beat up myself for "failing". If I ate something that wasn't the healthiest, I allowed it. I ate a smaller amount or made a different decision next time. Don't beat yourself up. Whenever I used to say self beating things, my FH would say "please don't talk about my friend that way". I would never say those horrible things to someone else, so why is it ok to say them to myself? See if you can find what you need to fill your self care and take the baby steps toward self love.

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I have been working on my own self image and not associating weight with worth. This podcast is a great place to start. It is called Intuitive Eating. It is not something to try to lose weight, but rather fix your relationship with food and your body.

It has been hard and I have not fully embraced it yet, but I do think it has helped me so far.

Have you met with a doctor or wellness coach? Gaining 100 lbs in two years isn't typical, and it may be worth making sure there isn't an underlying medical cause. Health and happiness isn't just about weight, but I think it would be good to rule out any metabolic syndromes, PCOS, thyroid issues, or mental health difficulties that may have caused your weight gain.

Also, I assure you if your FH tells you you are beautiful its because that is what he truly believes. He loves you for you and things you are sexy the way you are!

There isn't a one size fits all approach to weight loss and a doctor, personal trainer, wellness coach, or exercise support group would probably be super helpful in supporting you on your weight loss journey. Do you have friends who might be able to support you in being less sedentary and more active, or making better choices when it comes to food, alcohol, sleep, and wellness? I find its easier to stay motivated when you are surrounded by people who support good lifestyle decisions. There are women at my work who have a lunchtime walking group for example, and one co-worker also runs a "healthy eating" table that meets once a week to encourage people to think about their food choices. Without knowing why you've gained weight its difficult to know what the best approach for you is, but I know most people who have successfully made healthy lifestyle changes and maintained them have not done so in a vacuum, and have friends they exercise with or surround themselves with people with similar healthy habits because it reinforces their commitment to their own health. I think finding activities you like to do and people who support healthy lifestyle choices is a good start.