Disappointed with my ring, tell him or no?

Show him that it is getting worn looking already and is making you sad that it hasn't held up. The two of you could take a look at JCPenny or somewhere similar for another. You can get real gold and a reasonably priced diamond. It doesn't have to cost tons of money.

I’m sure if you show your FH how much the ring has changed for the worse and express how you now realize that purchasing a fake ring didn’t turn out to be a good or cost-effective choice in the long run..... I bet he’d totally agree! I’m sure he doesn’t want you walking around with a bubblegum machine looking ring either.

I would say something, but that is just me and the relationship that I have with my FW. Have you checked Etsy? The ring that I have we got for $20 and it looks amazing. I have been wearing it for awhile now and it isn't showing any signs of wear or anything and I wear this thing all the time (doing dishes and all).

I don't think it's unreasonable to have a conversation with your FH about it. If a ring is looking dirty and aging badly despite you taking care of it, it might not be worth having something pretty (I assume) but fake. Maybe even a simple band but made of good metal. I know that's the wedding band route, but I have really sensitive skin and I can't even wear fake jewelry, it turns my skin green. 😳 So while I don't own much, what I do have is quality. I suggest the same for you and I'm sure you FH wants you to be comfortable and proud of whatever you have as a symbol of your love and commitment. ❤️

View Quoted Comment Yes it's not cost-effective! Exactly! Otherwise you have to keep buying new fake rings or let your ring get very ugly.

I'm sorry you're unhappy with your ring. I would just voice your concerns to him about it wearing really poorly. FH got my ring from etsy from a shop called zhedora. It allowed us to stay budget friendly because you can chose between simulated diamond, white sapphire, and moissanite. It also lets you pick 14K, 18K, or platinum for metals. This could be a good option to look at so you can get something you're happier with, but it also stays more on the budget friendly side of things. I got a 14K white gold with simulated diamond. I wear it every day and have cleaned it maybe 3 times and it looks just the same as when he gave it to me (1.5 years ago). Congratulations and I hope you can find something you're happy with

In my opinion the ring isn't what matters, the marriage is what matters. The person you are marrying is what matters. Tell him your concerns. Be kind, but be honest. There are lots of other affordable options out there.
When my fiancé proposed to me in April 2019, we were in his shop and he proposed with an O ring. The actual ring didn't come until December.

I definitely agree with my you it’s not his fault since you told him to get a fake ring initially. Honestly I would be like hey I think I would like to get a real ring now, I’ll help pay for it.

I know this isn't really what you asked, but something I noticed in your OP (and many of the replies) is the idea of a "fake" ring versus a "real" ring. This is usually used in reference to whether the stone is a diamond, or a different clear stone. When people have a perception that the only "real" stone is a diamond, and diamonds are very expensive, it often sets up a false binary that the only options are a very inexpensive, low-quality ring, a comparatively low-quality diamond at an inflated price point (like the selections mall jewelry stores often - though not always - are), or a high-quality, expertly crafted ring at a completely unattainable price point. Within this limited framework, you picked the easiest and most pragmatic option - get a cheap "fake" ring until you have the money to get a "real" ring.

If you can step outside of this perception, however, a whole world of options opens up to you. There are no "fake" or "real" rings. There are expensive, inexpensive, and everywhere along the spectrum, and high-quality, low-quality, and everywhere along that spectrum. That's it. Your problem isn't that you have a "fake" ring, your problem is that you have a low-quality $100 ring. I would hazard a guess that your ring looks "worn" because it's gold plated sterling silver, and the plating is starting to wear off.

Now if you go to Kay, their rings might be 20 or 30 times what yours cost...that's a big jump, and probably why you went for the inexpensive one. But what if you could find a nice ring for $500 or $700? Maybe a sapphire, maybe a moissanite, maybe something pre-owned? There are tons of options available to you...but it all starts with recognizing that the judgment of a ring isn't a binary of real or fake.

I have a really pretty white sapphire ring that I got years ago, and it still looks good. I also love my ring from https://www.una-co.com/ that I bought to wear on a vacation.

I would just tell him how you're feeling. I got engaged once when I was younger, and the ring was HIDEOUS. I agonized about whether or not to say anything, but I ultimately did, and we got a different setting that I was much happier with. He ended up dumping me three months before our wedding, but it all worked out!

I hope you can get a different ring.

So this may be an unpopular opinion, but more than likely he will be extremely hurt (whether he shows it or not) if you tell him the truth. You could always say you lost the ring. Regardless of how much you love him, however you tell him that ring is not the ring for you, he will be hurt. Honesty is extremely important in a relationship, but so is protecting the other person and how they feel. Ask yourself, what will happen if he DOESN'T know you aren't happy with the ring? What will happen if he Does know? He already bought that ring. I am not suggesting to build a marriage on lies, but telling him the truth may be more harmful in the long-term- he may always second guess himself and gifts he buys you for the rest of your lives. Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

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I think this route is a good one to have the conversation with your FH. Phrasing it like, "this is hard for me to bring up as we had talked about doing a fake ring until later and I had been so hopeful this would work out. Unfortunately the ring is wearing down, (show ring) even after all the precautions I took. What are your thoughts?" Then listen to what he says. You could also add, " I was going to do some research on different options - etsy, online shops, pawn shops etc to see if I could find something that would work" Your FH might want to be involved and they might not, so I would taylor the conversation and give them an out if they want it. I have a now ex who was like 'get whatever you want that makes you happy" and my current love who was completely involved in the design process and choice once I chose the diamond. This may or may not be important to them and approaching it with honesty and love is the best way.