Disagreement on Kids at Wedding!

We are having a no children wedding also, the only children that will be there are the FG's, and RB's, thats it!!

We're not having anyone under 18 at the wedding, but that's mainly because we don't have any young children in our family. I don't think it's unreasonable to just want to include family kids rather than every kid you guys know.

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Unless the kid is in the wedding party, we are having no kids at the wedding.

We are only inviting the children who are apart of the wedding i.e. flower girls and ring bearer since their parents are in the wedding also but that is it.

We arent having any one under the age of 18 either.

if my MOH didnt want a night out so desperatley, I would have had her kids be the ring bearers but then they would be the only kids there. Thats not very much fun for them tho.

No kids at ours except for the wedding party - but it's your day do what you want - the kids are cute at weddings but they need constant supervision even if they are teenagers and they could get hurt on the dance floor and what not if they are really young.

I think it's hard to say no kids, and then allow a few kids. If you have none at all, you can pitch it as a type of reception that isn't suitable for kids. But if you allow a few, it's harder to justify why others aren't allowed.

We are having a few younger cousins, but other than that, everyone is over 18. IMO, a wedding is a fun time for parents to get a babysitter and go out for the night, so I think many people are happy they get a night out. In addition, 30-35 more people by having all the children come is A LOT! I would stray away from that if possible.

I'm in the same boat. Several of my cousins have 3-5 kids each. It makes quite a difference in the numbers. I hope you get things figured out - do what's best and makes the most sense for you.

We are inviting kids of family members only, and our friends' kids are OFF the guest list entirely. We are hoping that since it's an hour away, and doesn't start until 630pm, most people will try to find a babysitter.... In addition, although they are all invited, we have been having the WP and immediate family kind of spread the word that we would prefer to have very few/no kids at the reception. It appears that the message is getting across....

I had no kids but some ended up showing up and by that time I couldnt say much and I regeret not having my nieces and nephews. I say you should have them there.

We are having no kids at our wedding, even though members of the bridal party having young kids (sis-in-law will have a newborn!)

If your niece and nephews are in the wedding party, I could see having them attend and no other kids. Even still, if you tell everyone else 'no kids' and your niece and nephews are there, others will wonder why they couldn't bring their kids. Some may even be offended. But you can't please everyone, so if that doesn't bother you, go for it.

That's a lot of kids. I'm with you. Give the parents the night off and leave the kids at home.

Not many people we are inviting have children with the exception of fmaily...there will be about 10 kids the most ranging from 5-10 in age

My plan is to have a kid free wedding other than the wedding party. I'm more than likely going to arrange for a sitter (or 2 depending on the multitude of children we end up with haha), and perhaps do a "kids under 10 will have a sitter provided for them" kind of thing. I wouldn't mind older children, but I just attended a wedding that had no kid restrictions and the WHOLE wedding was interrupted by one child or another. There were 3 interruptions from crying babies and 4 interruptions from bored (or screaming and obnoxious) toddlers. I'm going to have a newborn myself for our wedding and personally, I see it as one less obstacle to battle with on the big day.

Im planning a kid free wedding.. minus my 3 yr old niece who i wanted as my FG but she is too shy and hates wearing dresses .. lol i want it to be a very formal wedding and a night that the guests can let loose and have fun without the babies.

We took children into account when planning our guest list, knowing that for some it will be hard to leave their children (single parents, long distance travelers, ect) and for others we are actually really close to the kids. But I think, in total, we're only looking at about 10 of them, and that's IF their parents even want to bring them.

Beside my own daughter who is the flower girl and 4 cousins, I'm not extending the invite to entire families. Our ceremony doesn't start till 5pm so I don't think people will mind, as I doubt they would want their small children out that late anyhow. I did have one friend contact me saying she wants to come but will have a 2 month old and has to bring him/her...I said that's perfectly fine...so you could make exceptions for certain people if you don't put "adults only" on the invite. Just address them carefully so they know who is clearly invited and who is not.

Thank you all for your responses. I failed to mention that we are just having an evening wedding party and forgoing a ceremony. I am leaning in the NoKids direction, as I am sure the parents would enjoy a night out. My only concern is people from out of town finding sitters, as most of their normal goto sitters will be at the wedding. But I guess we can find friends of friends to help with that!