Difficult Mother

If she's not contributing, you can just stop sharing your plans with her. When she makes suggestions, just thank her for the idea and tell her you're thinking about it. I don't have any suggestions for the family drama. :/

I'm with Carly, stop involving her if she's not paying for anything.

I would stop telling her stuff. if thats not an option, try not arguing with her. I know that sounds hard. but if she disagrees with an idea you have, instead of saying "too bad, thats what im doing", ask her what she would do instead. tell her you'll consider the options. she may end up dropping it. my mom and i clashed a lot at the beginning. when i stopped shutting her down, things improved. that doesnt mean im changing all my ideas for her, im just trying to be more collaborative

I love my mother, but she's notorious for being a "difficult mother" too. I've learned to be very selective about what I share with her. I suggest you try doing the same thing; therefore, she won't be complicating things you do not want her input on. As for her stirring up family drama...that's just how some people are, unfortunately. They complain about drama, but they secretly thrive on it because it means they get attention when other people have to listen to them complaining about it. It's convoluted, but I think a lot of people have someone like this in their family. The best you can do is not feed into it; hopefully that will help slow down her spouting complaints and drama to you.

My mother is the same way and i have just learned to ignore it. My life, plans or world will not stop because of my mother and you have to look at it in that light. Take the suggestions and if it comes to you just not talking to her so you can have piece of mind thwn thats what you need to do.