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Just Said Yes August 2018

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Debbie, on February 7, 2018 at 9:24 AM

My daughter is American and her fiancé is Vietnamese. The advice I need is about the reception. Apparently the Vietnamese culture has a 6-9 course sit down dinner, then the bride and groom make the rounds to every table to have a drink and collect the “envelopes”. Traditionally each Vietnamese person will give the bride and groom $100.00 each in the envelopes. Ive suggested having the traditional buffet with Vietnamese, American and Lebanese food on there (my family is Lebanese) but that didn’t seem to be ok. So is it appropriate to invite our family and friends and not offer them anything other than Vietnamese food?

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Beginner August 2018
L · on February 7, 2018 at 1:09 PM
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We're not having shark fin soup, just a regular seafood soup that you would find at a Chinese restaurant. That way, guests aren't thrown off by it and also the environment concern you mentioned.

But I would suggest to definitely use the taste testing next month to voice your opinions and suggestions. I know the mother said that the caterer won't change any of the dishes but I'm also wondering if she has really asked the caterer or if she just doesn't want to budge. If it's the latter, just talk to the caterer when you are there about possible options as I'm sure the caterer would be able to work something out (unless you're looking for a complicated dish which doesn't sound like it).
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Dedicated July 2018
Karen · on March 6, 2018 at 11:57 PM
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I like the idea of tasting the food options and swapping/altering dishes in a way that would make it more enjoyable for everyone. His parents need to compromise as this is 2 cultures becoming one, not them dominating.

On a a side note, I have to admit that I’m a little offended that you said your daughter is American but the fiancé is Vietnamese. You’re Lebanese and can be called American, but he’s Vietnamese but isn’t? Hm....
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Just Said Yes August 2018
Debbie · on March 7, 2018 at 9:19 PM
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Wow, people are so easily offended these days. I’m not going to apologize for what I said or how I said it because everything I said is the truth.
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Dedicated July 2018
Karen · on March 7, 2018 at 9:51 PM
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Great. Keep propagating that attitude.
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