Did you tell your kid's dad you were getting married right away?

FH didn't tell his child's mother. He just said "me and my fiance" and she was like "wait fiance " and that's how she find out.

I waited two weeks and then I asked him to meet me for lunch so I could tell him in person. Keep in mind, we had been married for about 7 years before though and have 2 kids together. I thought it was the right thing to do.

I don't see him. My daughter is 12 so he will call her when he's outside. Same when I pick her up - I just call her.

Me and my daughters dad have a great relationship so I just told him!

I haven't told him because he can be weird and it is hard to tell how he will react.

She knows I am getting married but she hasn't told him. I didn't tell her not to tell him or anything.

Just tell him. It cant be that deep. Your both adults. How he reacts is his issue.

My son told his dad, 2 days after fh proposed. He remarried several years ago so he was cool with it.

I didn't tell him at all. Then again, the only one who has contact with him is my eldest, via FB messenger. I didn't feel he needed to know, considering the last time I saw him he was being led away by the cops for punching me in the face (eta for the last time). Nope... he didn't need to know.

Not exactly the same but my FHs childrens mother...i don't think he actually told her but his daughters know and im sure told they her. She is known to cause lots of drama. They have a very tense relationship but I'm worried about what the mother is saying to them. When we picked them up last weekend the youngest told me she no longer wanted to be a flower girl, when the weekend before I showed them their dresses and they were super excited about it. Definitely worried about her trying to keep them from the wedding come next year....

Haven't told him yet but he has no relationship or visitation with the kids. I will consult my local child support office before contacting him about it.

I feel the way he will react is by saying that its better that my daughter live with him because he might not like her living in a house with another man.

I told my son's father six months or so after engagement, to discuss changing his name after we get married. I'm sure he saw on Facebook. We don't really talk much at all. He lives in another country, and he has never met "our" son. Weird situation.

ETA: I think it's important to tell him.

I think my daughter ended up telling my ex pretty quickly (they talk once a week and she tells him whatever is happening that day). We were married for 10 years and have been divorced for 4 years. My ex and I do not have a good relationship and we don't really speak at all, so if she hadn't told him, I'm not sure if I would have or not. If you are on ok terms with him and feel you should, then give him a heads up. I don't think either way (telling or not) is correct or incorrect. Depends on the unique situation what is best. Good luck!

Is your FH a convict? or?? why would your ex be concerned? He can't hardly expect you to be single forever.

I don't have experience with this, but I can share what happened with a friend.

My friend and her ex have 2 kids together. She contacted her ex after the got engaged to let him know. He appreciated it.

He got married and didnt tell her. They showed up at a soccer game with a ring on and that's how she found out. She was not super excited about it, it was awkward.

I think for the kid's sake it helps to let them know. Because if your child tells them that could make things awkward. Plus I think it's always a good idea to let them know if there is going to be a change in the kids life. it doesnt need to be a big thing, just when you guys drop off/pick up you can mention it. or give him a call or text. I dont think you need to go out to lunch or anything.

I will eventually tell him because he should know. We do have a joint legal custody agreement and that is what I'm afraid of - him taking me to court over that.

@WHO?Mrs.Jones My FH is not a convict and has no record. My ex is just weird.

I didn't really tell him... I mean I had stated that our relationship was serious and that I was going to marry him but to answer you no I didn't. He knows now but mostly through our mutual friends on fb. This being said. His sister is my MOH. It was just hard to tell him...too much history there and he can be jealous. My FH is the only person I seen after I separated and he didn't take that very well when he realized it was really over. We have 3 kids together. He didn't want anything to do with me when we're together but after he lost me he became very angry. We're okay now.

@Wendy

My ex can be jealous. I feel that sometimes in his mind he thinks there is still a chance for us. I ended things completely 5 years ago. In those years he would randomly ask me out, call me drunk crying that he loves me up until earlier this year. He use to randomly ask me if I am seeing someone and if I was things between us would change? That is why I can't be friends with him because he would interpret it as something else. I don't share anything other than information about my daughter with him.

Why I fear him taking me to court is because he has done it before - 8 years ago he wanted full physical custody because I had ended things with him. After that was over we still ended up with the same custody agreement - me having primary physical, and joint legal.