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Lauren R.
VIP August 2015

Did you tell people who weren't invited about your engagement/wedding?

Lauren R., on May 9, 2015 at 12:30 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 24

I'm wondering if I did something wrong. There are some girls that I know whom I was close with years ago, but we have grown apart and only speak occasionally now (and even then it's only on Facebook). They get together without me all of the time for birthdays, sporting events, barbecues, etc. and I...

I'm wondering if I did something wrong. There are some girls that I know whom I was close with years ago, but we have grown apart and only speak occasionally now (and even then it's only on Facebook). They get together without me all of the time for birthdays, sporting events, barbecues, etc. and I don't get invited. I'm fine with it. However, they know I am with FH and have assumed all of this time that they would be included, even though I never said this. I opted to not tell them about my engagement/wedding because we are limited on space/funds and I knew I would not be able to invite them. Well, they just found out about it (I still don't know how) and have decided to stop speaking to me. They even unfriended me on Facebook. Telling them "Hey, I'm getting married but you're not invited" felt rude to me, so I didn't do it. Did I do something wrong? Should I have told them about my wedding/engagement up front? How did everyone else handle it?

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  • MzRosaLu
    Master July 2016
    MzRosaLu ·
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    Good riddance! They just made room in your life for better friends.

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  • Crystal L.
    Master August 2015
    Crystal L. ·
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    Oh wow! I'm sorry to hear they treated you like that! =( I told several people that weren't invited about it inadvertently, from posting little snippets of things about the wedding on fb, and they've all been really super excited and happy for us. You would think that, since you're not close, and have never been invited to anything of theirs, even small stuff, that they'd assume they weren't invited! Yikes! Praying everything goes smoothly for you! You did nothing wrong, hun!!

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  • Crystal L.
    Master August 2015
    Crystal L. ·
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    Oh wow! I'm sorry to hear they treated you like that! =( I told several people that weren't invited about it inadvertently, from posting little snippets of things about the wedding on fb, and they've all been really super excited and happy for us. You would think that, since you're not close, and have never been invited to anything of theirs, even small stuff, that they'd assume they weren't invited! Yikes! Praying everything goes smoothly for you! You did nothing wrong, hun!!

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  • Lauren R.
    VIP August 2015
    Lauren R. ·
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    Thanks, everyone. I'm feeling much better about things. We also booked our honeymoon today, so that helped! I'm going to keep it moving. lol

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