Did you or the groom pick his tux?

It’s FHs day too, so he’s picking out his tux/ensemble and his brother will be picking out his, as well.

I’m going to relinquish control and let FH pick his own attire- all he’s said is he wants a “James bond look.” My FH is barely involved in anything either, but 🤷‍♀️. Do you have a color swatch you could send him with since you want them to match the BMs?

Did he pick your wedding dress? Probably not. You don’t get to dictate his attire either. This is his wedding just as much as it is yours and, assuming he’s a grown adult, he can dress himself.

Please do not go. It’s clearly uncomfortable for him and will also embarrass him in front of his friends that his fiancée is there to chaperone.

Have you discussed your wedding colors & decor? Show him some examples, and photos of your BM dresses and together discuss color options. You can discuss some options you think would look nice (black or navy tuxes) but let him pick out the style. If you’d like groomsmen to wear a tie the same color as your BM dresses, you can suggest that. Maybe text him a pic for reference while he’s shopping.

It's his day. Let him pick. You can get color swatches from the bridal store. Hea a grown up he can find his own tux lol

He wanted me to come and kept saying it was my decision which is what I hate because it is his day too. We agreed on his and the groomspeople’s as well but it has been the worst experience for me planning so far as the woman at the shop was very rude and condescending all my ideas saying that they were not appropriate for a wedding, even though I had been to many weddings with similar attire.

I definitely say let him choose how he wants the suit to go. If he wants to pick it out by himself, let him do it. The suit is a moment that is all his for the wedding. Most guys don't have a lot of that. If you're that concerned about the color for the bridesmaid dresses, take a photo of the material. Or give him a color swatch.

I think tell him what colors you thinking. Talk about what colors you both want. But like you had the freedom to choose if he came to your dress fitting he should have the same for his tux. He also may want time with the guys.

We picked it out together, but that’s because husband’s groomsmen are all from out of town so he couldn’t go with them..... so just husband and I went together. I wouldn’t have gone with him if he had his friends, though I don’t think he would’ve minded if I did.


I think if you gave him a swatch of the right shade of red, he could handle it. Also what if he went without you, but agreed to send you a picture before he makes a final decision? Would that be a good compromise?

I went to mens wearhouse with my FH and all they did was measure him.. it's nothing special to get a tux so idk why it matters if you go or dont go. Reading all the other comments, "its his day too" LOL hes a guy. Its clothes. Big whoop. Go with if you want. His friends will probably end up distracting him anyway so hell need the help getting back on course.

It’s not up to you to chose what he wears. Just like it’s not up to him to chose what you wear. Did he go dress shopping with you? Give him a color swatch so he can match the color and let the man dress himself.

View Quoted Comment Actually he was asked to come. He was asked to be apart of all of it. The man can’t dress himself for work everyday or pick out what to wear on date night. Letting him pick for the wedding is extremely frightening.

I went with FH because he didn’t even know where to go. But other than that, I let him choose completely. His suit should be in soon and I’m excited to see it!

I went with FH, but he wanted me to go. It was just him, me and my bridesman, everyone else was busy. We looked at stuff together and he picked out what he wanted, I just gave my opinion on vest colors for the guys.

As for your situation, it seems as though hes very uncomfortable with you going and you need to respect that. Do you have color swatches for the dresses? Give them to him so he can show the shop workers and they will help guide him. Talk to him before he goes about what might look good with the girls dresses. He has a cell phone right? Ask him to take pictures and send them to you when he decides. Honestly, unless he has no fashion sense whatsoever, I'm sure he will be fine! Let him have this time with his guys, and pick out his own suit! Remember, most places you have some time to change it too!

I went with my FH to pick out tuxes because 1) he has no style and 2) after living in our town for 5+ years he still has no idea where he's going if it not the grocery store or Target.

I think we did pretty good- some of his guys are on the bigger side so we thought the all black look was best.

UPDATE. I went with him. We argued a lot before hand but once we got there he was thanking me over and over and the groomsmen were like dude it’s a good thing you brought her bc you’d be lost. Tux is paid for in full so one-off thing to cross off the list.

View Quoted Comment It wasn’t a comfort thing. It’s a he has no sense of fashion and he knew I would be the voice of reason and he hates when I’m right. I ended up going though and he was thankful. He’s just extremely stubborn and prideful.

Neither he’s wearing his dress blues.

I went with FH to buy his suit, because I like to be involved and HE wanted me there. But it's his day too, so as long as he didn't look like a character from Dumb & Dumber then I wouldn't mind him doing that without me.

Did he go with you dress shopping? If yes then this should be a mutual decision if no and he wants to go alone and he agreed to let you go I would hang back and let him decide what he wants to wear. It's his wedding to it should be something he is comfortable in and likes.