Marcia
Expert March 2021

Did you look for your so or did your so find you?

Marcia, on August 25, 2020 at 5:42 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 1 38
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I'm wondering how everyone on this forum went about meeting their significant other, or if it just happened. Most people I know who are dating at the moment met as neighbors or in a class or at work. In contrast, I didn't meet anyone at school, and my first job was with mostly people out of my age range, so I went out looking for opportunities to meet my SO: going to mixers and bars, using dating apps, going on blind dates when offered, etc.



Recently a friend told me she doesn't know how I did what I did because she is so shy and she wants to meet someone more organically. She does want be in a relationship. It made me think about the different paths.
So how did you and your SO come together? Were you looking, or did fate set you up?

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Latest activity by Christine, on September 2, 2020 at 12:07 AM
  • Emma
    Super October 2020
    Emma ·
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    We met on tinder, he was a accidental swipe on my part 😂 we met at a park the same day and it was just kinda just a instant connection
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
    Chrysta ·
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    I always heard the saying “You will meet The One when you’re least expecting it”. It couldn’t have been more true for me! I first met my fiancé when I was dating his cousin’s best friend. We instantly vibed and became friends. (Full disclosure, I totally had a crush on him from day one!) Flash forward 9 years later and me the other guy have broken up and I have been living in another state for over 4 years. It was the first time I had ever lived alone and been 100% independent and self-sustaining... and I was loving it! In no way was I looking for or even wanting a significant other! Then the ex boyfriend’s father passed away, and I went back for the funeral. That is where I met back up with my now fiancé. We immediately had that connection again & started dating shortly after. Now we love to joke that we hooked up at a funeral LOL
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  • Hannah
    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    We went to high school together and were friendly at the time but not really friends. Then, several years later, we ran into each other at a bar because of mutual friends and started talking, exchanged numbers, and that was that. I don't think either of us were necessarily looking for a relationship at the time, but things just seemed...right.
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I showed up to church one day. There happened to be one empty seat next to me during the lunch and he sat there and the rest is history.
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  • Marcia
    Expert March 2021
    Marcia ·
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    Aw these are all so sweet!


    I forgot to share how my FH and I met. We met at a party that a friend of mine purposely invited us both to. I was looking for love at the time, but wasnt in a rush, so we still had a very slow, laid back start to the relationship.
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  • A
    Devoted October 2021
    Adrienne ·
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    We met in college! I definitely wasn't looking for a relationship at the time, just trying to get good grades while commuting to school and working three jobs. The first time we met was through a mutual friend, he was being introduced to people around the dorm, and I remember he kept talking to my roommate and hitting it off with her lol. Fast forward to the next semester, my FH, myself, and our mutual friend shared a class together, and by some strange chance, our mutual friend did not sit between us, I ended up sitting in the middle, and we always joke that if our friend had sat between us (it was just funny because we didn't know each other that well before that), then we might not be getting married haha.

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  • Jasmine
    Master August 2021
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    We met in college. We went for different degrees so there was no way we would have had classes that cross each other. Couple years later, the first time I saw him was in an elective creative writing class lol. I missed the first day and everyone had seats already. I walked in and found a seat in the back near FH and my first thought was how cute he was. We had to set up in groups and it turned out there was a few us that needed one so we teamed up. After that class, we had a couple more GE/elective classes together. The rest was history.

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  • D
    Dedicated June 2021
    Doxie Mom ·
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    I was at a bar with some friends and he knew one of mine (but i didnt know him) and he told her i was the most beautiful girl in the whole place, she told me, a few weeks later he showed up at a different mutual friends party (i was 19 and he was 23, now we are 27 & 31). He was cute but I was hung up on someone else at the time, over the next few months he was persistent with me and I have never looked back Smiley heart

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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    We met at a beer festival. We had mutual friends attending the festival and met through those friends. Neither one of us were looking for anything at the time, it just happened ☺️!
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  • Eri
    Super October 2020
    Eri ·
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    Met on public transportation, lol.

    I was taking the bus downtown to work for years. Never really talked to anyone.

    His car broke down and was in the shop for a few weeks, so he stayed with a friend closer to downtown and was taking the bus to get to work.

    I actually took a line I normally didn't that morning, due to a snowstorm. He got on and sat in front of me and I was like "oh god, this guy is going to try and talk to me" (it was 7 am and I had no makeup on and just didn't want to be bothered) -- and sure enough, he did, but not until the bus broke down and he got the courage to strike up conversation!

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  • Futuremrsn
    Devoted October 2020
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    We met 7 years ago through a friend (who actually liked me but I liked my FH!) We were hanging out having a bonfire in this mutual friend’s backyard and there was an instant connection and we started dating shortly after! We then found out we were born in the same hospital, and had grown up just a few streets away from each other as kids. I’d say to meet people it’s best to do it naturally, as in my history I’ve had no luck with getting friends together.
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  • Mrs.a
    Master October 2021
    Mrs.a ·
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    We sought each other out on a dating website, OkCupid. However I found him on a search and made “the first move” aka messaged him...and we never stopped talking Smiley smile

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  • Sharonda
    Rockstar January 2021
    Sharonda ·
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    We met on Facebook. We were both members of a private group for singles who graduated from historically Black colleges and universities. We communicated at first by replying to posts on the page. We struck up a convo under a post and transitioned to DMs for more private conversations. We (or he - lol) would check in occasionally, but the messages soon became more frequent and we exchanged numbers after about a month. We officially met in person about 2 months later on a weekend “baecation” in neutral territory (New Orleans), and the rest is history!
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    My fiancé and I were bestfriends for 7 years before we dated. It just happened and has been the best decision ever that we’ve made!


    SN: Literally everyone (our families, friends, etc) always said that we should be together but we never saw it and one day we talked about it and decided to give it a try! Smiley heart
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  • Mindy
    Super November 2020
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    We met through the dating app Hinge.
    I saw a picture of this guy in a Pittsburgh Penguins jersey surrounded by storm troopers. It was one of the best things I had ever seen. So I sent him a message that said just that. Never thought I’d hear back from him.
    We messaged on the app and through texting for a week before our first date and went on two more dates within the week. We’ve been together since December 2018, got engaged October 2019, and are getting married November 2020.
    Funniest part? We grew up about 45 minutes apart in western PA but didn’t meet until we were both in coastal Virginia for our jobs.
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  • Kathryn
    VIP August 2020
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    My husband and I worked at the same place as software engineers, but we just didn't talk because we're both the type to not socialize beyond the normal coworker interaction. I always thought he was cute though! About 3 years after of only knowing each other as coworkers/friends, we got placed as team leads for two teams that needed to work together to get a project done. It was terrible - client was promised something we couldn't deliver, but management didn't want to hear that from us - so we started spending time hiding in conference rooms together to escape everyone. He asked me out for Valentine's Day, and the rest is history. We've been two peas in a pod ever since.
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  • VIP August 2020
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    We're both from the same, fairly small town. We weren't friends while we were growing up, but we had some of the same friends because in a small town, everyone has some of the same friends. After high school, I moved across the country. I was in a serious relationship for the last 2.5 years I lived there. I broke up with that guy when I realized that I didn't want my kids to be related to him. At the same time, I decided to quit my job and move back to where I came from (not literally, just the same area). I also decided that I was going to be single for a year after realizing I hadn't done that since I was like 16; I was 23 at the time. I'm pretty independent and I never really felt like I needed anyone, but I think I just wanted to prove to myself that that I'd be okay. It was fun, I went to a bunch of movies by myself. It turns out I really like being alone! Anyway, shortly after I moved back I was living with one of our mutual friends and he invited us both to trivia. After the first time this happened, I said, "we should hang out with him more often, I like him." I didn't mean anything by it other than what I literally said as this was probably 6ish months into my year of solitude. But he, the friend, invited him, husband, to go to trivia again. Somehow, after trivia was over, the two of us ended up eating ice cream and making out in my car (super classy, I know) and eventually, after about six months of very obviously being a couple, I admitted to myself that we were in a relationship. That was in 2013 and we got married a few weeks ago!
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  • S
    Dedicated June 2021
    Stephanie ·
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    We net on a dating site..plenty of fish lol. We were not really looking. I messaged him i thought he was cell guy at uscellular i go to lol.
    Found out he looks like q guy from long ago. We talked a bit. He is younger then me 5 yrs is all. We had been drawn to each other . The chemistry was definitely their from the start. We ended up in bed together date 1 which i never have done before and was so reluctant. I thought Stephanie what are you doing? 10 months later we are engaged to be married. He said from date 1 he wasn't sure what it was but he was so drawn to me and felt a connection unlike any other before. I say it was fate
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  • Kimberly
    Super March 2021
    Kimberly ·
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    I love all these stories!
    FH and I met through Tinder during the 10 days between our birthdays. We had both recently broken up with others (short non-relationships). We text for a week or so before our first date. Then spent about 3-1/2 hours at the restaurant. We’ve been together ever since. My birthday is 2/2, his is 2/12 and our first date was 2/18. We are getting married March 13th and will have been together for 4 years when we get married.

    We wanted to get married on our anniversary but we have 3 kiddos between us and his twins are in their senior year. So 1. We had to do it when school was out and 2. We didn’t want to intrude on the twins’ senior year end of school fun and preparing for college. Spring break it is!
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  • JM Sunshine
    August 2020
    JM Sunshine ·
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    I met my husband in 1st grade. We have been married for 28 years.😊
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