Kat19
Savvy April 2020

Did i say 'yes' to the (right) dress?

Kat19, on July 15, 2019 at 9:17 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 1 30
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Do you ever go out to eat and have your mind set on a certain entree, and you're so sure you're going to order that one, but then the waiter comes, and you instantly change your mind last minute? Well, that's me with food...and now apparently with wedding dresses.

For 2 months, I've been in love with dress 1 and compared ALL other dresses to it. But something was bothering me about it. Was it too simple? Was it boring? I always wanted to incorporate some lace, so I was surprised at how much I loved this simple mikado gown. I also love off the shoulder dresses in general, so that was a plus.

Then I saw the dress 2 and fell in love with that one, too! It had the simple lace detail I was drawn to, the romantic neck line, pops of pearl detail, all while being set in the mikado, trumpet silhouette. After lots of thought and internal pressure, I ended up choosing dress 2! But as soon as I paid for it, I felt a pang of regret. I am still in love with the first one, and dream of wearing it one day. Is this normal? It's like a breakup. I can't seem to move on! Please pretend I'm your BFF and give me reasons to get over it. HAHA. [Note: I wear 'off the shoulder' dresses to pretty much every fancy function, so I thought I would give the FH something different to look at with dress 2]

Timeless vs. RomanticDid i say 'yes' to the (right) dress? 1


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Latest activity by Star, on April 20, 2020 at 8:41 PM
  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    It's totally normal to have doubts! I came down to two dresses - I was super torn. My entourage encouraged me to get the dress that I have now. I wasn't 100% on board, and I still kept thinking about the other dress. Fast forward to now and I absolutely love my dress!

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  • Monique
    Master December 2019
    Monique ·
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    I love dress two! It’s very pretty. Dress one is nice but plain in my opinion.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I prefer dress #2 muuuch more than the first
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  • M
    Devoted September 2019
    McKenzie ·
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    I totally get what you are saying, especially about making a meal selection haha! Both dresses are absolutely beautiful. Is there any wiggle room to change your order to dress #1? If so, go back in and try it on for another spin.

    If not, I would take a day to mourn dress #1 then delete all your photos of it and focus your attention on dress #2 and why you chose it. It has the neckline, lace, and is something exciting/new for your FH! It is a great dress, and you will look lovely on your wedding day.

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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Dress 2 is so pretty. It's very romantic. Dress one is gorgeous too. I love your analogy with the food ahaha it makes it so easy to understand
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  • Cyndy
    Rockstar May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    I think number 2 is prettier. Number 1 is nice but kinda plain.
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  • Hannah
    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I totally get what you're saying about the food thing. I personally prefer dress 2 to dress 1. There are still elements that are similar. Both skirts are satin and have a similar shape. If you want off the shoulder, maybe you can incorporate that in alterations. Also, I personally think lace is just as timeless as all-over satin! Unless you have the budget to get dress 1, the best thing to do is just focus on what you love about dress 2 and push dress 1 out of your mind. There is no sense in dwelling in "what ifs" if you can't do anything about it except make yourself go crazy.
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  • Kat_
    Super October 2019
    Kat_ ·
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    I’ve had tons of doubts! But, let me tell you... girl... the dress you chose is gorgeous!!! You look amazing and you made the right choice!!
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  • C
    Devoted June 2019
    C R ·
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    Definitely 2.
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    Dress 2!!!!!! No comparison!!
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  • Khin
    Devoted November 2019
    Khin ·
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    I love dress 2! I've actually tried that on so I know how beautiful that dress is in person. Don't overthink it! You made the right choice! This is a very beautiful dress and you are gonna love it!
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  • Star
    Dedicated October 2019
    Star ·
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    I love both however I completely see why you purchased dress #2. I as well love lace 🥰

    also like you said with dress #1 its a similar silhouette to what you’ve worn before (off shoulder).
    I think you made the right decision. However you’re the bride so it’s ultimately up to you. If it’s any consolation I too have had dress doubts. I really wanted to have my dress custom made and/or be able to wear like 10 dresses on the day of. However those options were not just unfortunately out of my price range but also irrational and impractical...but I still wanted to do that. 😂 I was strongly torn between at least 3 different dresses at point. For awhile. Then like someone else has said on here..I mourned a bit for the others but once I considered pictures, walking down the aisle to my best friend, & being myself.....I knew deep down I’d picked the right one and all doubts melted away and never returned.
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  • Sharon
    Super September 2021
    Sharon ·
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    You look stunning in both! Dress 2 just stands out more, seems more special. Follow your heart, just shut out all the chatter in your head and listen to your heart.
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  • Stacey
    Devoted July 2020
    Stacey ·
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    I’m not just saying this to make it ok for you. I love dress #2. While #1 is nice...#2 is gorgeous!!!! I think you made the right decision.
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  • Kat19
    Savvy April 2020
    Kat19 ·
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    I'm glad you've gotten over the dress woes! I hope to get there someday (soon). lol. 95% of my entourage loved dress 1 - the one I didn't choose. Of course!! Smiley tongue

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  • Kat19
    Savvy April 2020
    Kat19 ·
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    Thanks for that suggestion! You are right - it is like a state of mourning. Haha. That sounds so dramatic for a dress, but it's pretty true. I just need to shift my focus off the dead and gone dress and move forward. Smiley smile I don't know about deleting the photos. I have such a hard time with that. I still have photos of my first (now ex) bf years and years ago (who is NOT my FH) LOL, but shhh....no one has to know. Smiley laugh

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  • Makenzye
    Devoted July 2019
    Makenzye ·
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    For me my dress is something I did not picture! it had everything I did not want! however I can't see myself walking down the aisle not wearing it! I will say I did have dress regret after we bought it but I think that is normal! its a big deal as long as you are happy with it that's all that maters! I think both dress look amazing one you!


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  • Brooke
    Expert November 2019
    Brooke ·
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    Both look great on you, but I absolutely LOVE dress 2!! You look stunning

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  • Talia
    Super October 2020
    Talia ·
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    Dress #1 just screams romantic,timeless and classic. I know what you mean by wanting your FH to look at something different but I think #1 is beautiful. I'm not much of a plain girl( i like bling and lace lol) But that dress is just gorgeous! #2 is very pretty too.

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  • Anna
    Super August 2020
    Anna ·
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    Both are gorgeous but #2 has more of a wow factor.

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