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Did i rush on my wedding dress? long Post!

Susanna, on September 18, 2022 at 2:43 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 11

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My wedding is in 10(ish) months (6/21/2023). Is gonna be a wedding destination in my country of origin Dominican Republic. (Venue is a Historic Mediterranean small town that was made of rocks on top of mountains) (so more of the italy vibes) I dont have any family here in the state where I live. So when one of my sister decided to come visit I was more than excited to start dress shopping. I had a million of pics styles saved for inspo (all with focussing in the same like (A-line, flowy, sheer, boho, tulle, embroided) well I decided to go to this outlet store first that has amazing reviews, and my experienced was awesome, but since it was an outlet, and my size is 12 they had limited selection for me (so they didnt have anything like my inspo pic on my size but I decided to try on the ones that were more on that direction). Long short story we found one, that everyone was wow, and even me really liked it. (Even thought it was not the style I wanted) the price was less than 1k (1k with tax)(hard to beat, since I saw the same dress in a boutique online for $1,700). I bought the dress.
NOW! THE ISSUE: I got home and locked myself in the bathroom and started to have an anxiety attack and crying non stop. I feel stupid, i feel like i rushed, maybe cause the price was hard to beat and it was half of my budget (which was awesome). I feel like I rushed cause it was the first place I went EVER, maybe if I had go to more places that had more selection to tried on my size, more on the style I was dreaming for and at the end I had come back and decided anyways to get this one I would feel more ok? I wanted something with off shoulder tulle puffy sleeves (i know that can be easily add to the dress I have right know). SUPPORTED OPINIONS: my 3 sisters told me to chill and is not the end of the world, to just go and keep looking for dresses, and if at the end I dont find anything I love more I always have that one there. My fiancee: (who is paying for the dress) told me to calm down, that is not like I spend 3k+ on a dress that now I dont want. To go look for another and see what I find, that I can always use two dresses (ceremony/recepcion) or sell the one I just got. BUT: I still feel stupid, i feel bad that he spend 1k in a dress already (even thought he acts like is not a big deal). Is it easy to sell a brand new dress? Maybe he is right? I can use two dresses, since the style I wanted is more simple than the one I got. I am a mess. HELP 1st&2nd pic: is the style I wanted. 3rd pic: is a model in the dress I got, which she has more boobs so it looks better on her

4th pic: is a similar style of what I got, but with the puffy sleeves (so I can have an idea of how will look if I add the sleeves I want) 5th pic: is me in the dress. Did i rush on my wedding dress? long Post! 1

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Deb · on September 18, 2022 at 3:14 PM
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The dress you bought is beautiful. Have you tried on the style dress you originally wanted? This will help you make a final decision. I tried a dress on at the first shop, liked it (not loved it), went to other shops and tried on dresses. After that I went back to the first shop, tried on the original dress and loved it. It was not at all the style of I was going for.
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Cece · on September 18, 2022 at 3:22 PM
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I know you are panicking right now that you may have chosen the wrong dress, but stop and look at this in a different way…. You have a dress that you and your family loved, and the dress looks fantastic on you! So no matter what, you have a fantastic option already in your possession. You are also fortunate enough to be in a situation where you can afford another dress! That means you can go shopping again and try on some dresses in the style you had originally anticipated wanting. If you find a dress that you absolutely love and cannot imagine being married in, then you can get it! And if none of them compare to the dress you already have, you will have the peace of mind knowing that you have chosen the right dress for you. Truly, you are in a win – win situation! So stop over thinking, and go enjoy wedding dress shopping again! I would just highly suggest if you find another one you think you absolutely love, take lots of pictures in it, then immediately go home and try on the dress you have now and compare how you feel in both of them. Then sleep on it for a night or two before making your final decision.
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Susanna · on September 18, 2022 at 3:27 PM
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I think thats where I messed up. I should have gone to more stores to see and then come back to this one if it was trully whant I wanted at the end. No i didnt get to try anything onnthe original style I wanted. But now I feel like Im stuck with this dress (even though fiancee think otherwise) cause I bought it, cant return it. Idk if im gonna be able to sell it.
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Susanna · on September 18, 2022 at 3:30 PM
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Thanks this is good idea.
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Michael · on September 18, 2022 at 4:47 PM
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One bride was looking into sleeves on a dress that seemed unlikely to be able to have sleeves added. She found a similar dress showing they could be added. So for you, the style on the last dress was to have sleeves that don't appear to be attached. You may look into a source for those or having a seamstress make those. There was a link about the way the sleeves can be made -- on that other discussion topic.
Just saying that the sleeves might make the difference for your expectations.
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Amy · on September 18, 2022 at 7:47 PM
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The dress you bought is beautiful on you. From looking at your photos it's a very similar style/feeling as your inspiration pictures.
I would look into finding some puffy sleeves like the one in your photo.
I think the dress you selected is perfect. Just breathe - it's ok to purchase a dress at the first store. Be happy that you got such a gorgeous gown at a discount.
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Gloria · on September 18, 2022 at 9:31 PM
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I like your dress. It's very pretty and looks beautiful on you. If sleeves can be added I think it would look very nice. If you like your dress and feel great in it keep it.
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Bailey · on September 19, 2022 at 9:56 AM
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Take a breath. We are conditioned to think that we will put on THE dress and the world will stop and no other dresses will compare. But reality is, there are literally hundreds of wedding dresses you could try on and cry you'd love them SO much! If you keep looking, I promise you will find more dresses and experience dress regret like the best of us.
You got a fantastic deal, love your dress, fits your theme, and came in way under budget. You made the right choice, dear!
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Deborah · on September 19, 2022 at 12:37 PM
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Please don't stress yourself about this. I also bought the first dress I tried on (albeit with quite a major alteration that I designed) and then panicked that I had chosen too soon. The fact is though that choosing a wedding dress can be such a magical experience that you almost don't want it to end, even when you have found a beautiful dress! I was with my best friend (as her bridesmaid) at a wedding fair when she found her dress and she was actually sad, because she said she just wasn't ready for her dress hunt to end. But she looked amazing and has never regretted that dress. The other thing you have to remember is that when you have been married for years you will keep seeing dresses that you like more than yours and you just have to accept that you chose one you loved at the time and as long as you felt beautiful in it at the time, it doesn't matter! It's your husband who has to last a lifetime, so as long as you choose him well, nothing else really matters!
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Paige · on September 19, 2022 at 1:21 PM
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Deep breath! Like Cece said, you're in a great place! You have a dress you like, and if you find something else you like more, then you can either sell the first one or wear one for the ceremony and the other for the reception. You could also get a bolero jacket with sleeves or have them altered on. Neither is a heavy lift. Picking (and finalizing) wedding dress choices can be overwhelming, but trust the process and that you'll be in the right gown on your big day no matter what!
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Anna · on September 20, 2022 at 1:03 AM
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Hello Susanna! I can completely relate to how you are feeling! I just bought a wedding dress a couple days ago and I am having the same experience (maybe worse because the dress I bought was out of budget and I have no money for a new one). The feeling you are having is normal! If you are someone who had a vision and spent time dreaming about your dress prior to this moment, it can be a huge shock to buy the dress and be off the dress market so to speak. Your wedding dress can be a big deal so it makes sense why you feel that way. This can also be how we handle engagement rings or even saying yes to a proposal. We have things built up in our heads of what we want and there is always the assumption the grass is greener on the other side. If you felt like the choice was too fast, keep the dress for now and go try on other dresses to get it out of your system! If you don't find a better one, then you have yours already! And if you do find a better one, then sell yours! You may take a loss, but in the big picture it will be worth it and okay.
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