Destination Wedding

No. Your not responsible for there day pass. We are having a guest staying outside of our resort and have them paying for there day pass. They decided to stay else where which is out of your control but also not your responsibility to accommodate.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this to a certain extent. There are naturally costs every guest will assume when going to a DW. It is not ok to require all guests to stay on property; it should only be an option. As the couple, all options should be provided to every invitee including how much it would cost to attend if they do not stay on site. If your guests were told from the beginning that there was a fee for a day pass only option (which should have been done), then you should not have to pay for anyone's day pass as they were well aware of the cost far in advance. If, however, they were not told until after they booked their flight, then you should cover the fees. But you're guests shouldn't be punished for wanting a cheaper option to celebrate your day with you.

I’m torn on this one. I don’t like the way the resort has structured your package. However since this guest also held her wedding there she is fully aware of how the pricing works. I’m curious why she would book offsite knowing this. I’m the type that will always check outside of a hotel block to see if the pricing is inflated. It usually is and I will sometimes book at a different hotel because of it. But when I do, I don’t expect all the perks that might be included in the block, such as a shuttle bus. So to some extent I think the guest is responsible for the day pass since they chose to stay offsite. On the other hand the cost of that pass just to attend your event is ridicules. I assume this is a good friend. Have you talked to her about her decision?

I’m having a destination wedding as well and I made it very clear that guests would need to stay on property (where I negotiated a ridiculously reduced rate for everyone) or they’d have to pay hefty fees for day passes. I would not pay the day pass costs for your guest and their SO. If they would’ve stayed at the resort that you arranged, they wouldn’t have incurred the extra costs nor would you be incurring the extra costs in the end.

View Quoted Comment I agree to an extent it is up to your discretion on if you choose to pay for the day pass or not. Your guest have the option to change the hotel but that doesn't mean you are now forced to pay an additional extra cost because they choose to stay outside the resort chosen. Just like I choose not to provide a guest a day pass for my wedding for those who choose to stay outside the two resort options. It's not fair to either party to have to pay to enter but you can do whatever you want. As long as you notify the guest as soon as your aware of them switching locations. It doesn't make it an punishment for you chosen not to pay if you explain it well you will be fine. There is no true right or wrong just what you want. It's about you celebrating your special day how you choose with your friends and family that are able to attend. Your not forcing anything.