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Destination Wedding Guilt

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Jade, on October 23, 2018 at 9:03 AM

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I'm feeling intense guilt for planning a destination wedding all of the sudden. Me, all guests and my fiance and I are from Kentucky, but Ive always wanted a beach wedding. We planned it around spring break (April) and towards the northern part pf Florida (Pensacola Beach) for convenience. However, that still doesnt eliminate costs for flights ($200 or more) and cost of hotel stay ($100/night). A few family/friends have complained about the costs/inconvenience of the wedding location (pensacola beach). We r not asking for gifts and plan to host dinner the day before and breakfast the day after the wedding. Am I being ridiculous for wanting to cancel the wedding, or should I just brush it off? Any way to further cut costs for guests? Help!
P.S.-My fiance only wishes we would have went further in distance (ex. California, Florida Keys)

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Nathalia · on October 24, 2018 at 12:23 AM
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Honestly, Kentucky isn't that far from N FL. Can't they just drive??? It's so hard to please people, the important people in your life will go no matter what. With plenty of notice, i don't see a problem. Just stuff a bunch of people in a sedan and drive down, then share a hotel room. I don't see the big deal, especially when you're providing 3 meals!
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Kenisha · on October 24, 2018 at 1:52 AM
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Don’t feel bad. If they don’t like it, they don’t have to come. The end.
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Just Said Yes January 2019
Karyn · on October 29, 2018 at 5:01 PM
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I'm also getting married in Mexico in January - Cozumel! Awesome choice
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Just Said Yes January 2019
Karyn · on October 29, 2018 at 5:07 PM
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Let me help you feel better about your destination wedding... we invited our friends & family on a cruise in January, then we are getting married while the ship is in port in Mexico!! Knowing maybe half of the invited would be able to afford / take time off etc. I went through the same guilty feelings. Asking myself - Am I being selfish? Is this crazy? The hardest part is my Mom wanted me to have a traditional wedding so she could invite the whole world !! In the end, I realized - this is MY day!! This is what I have always wanted & what will make ME happy. Let other brides do it their way! My mom did lol.... Just be excited, enjoy it all, keep picturing your beautiful day. Plus, destination is waaaay LESS STRESS! Good luck!
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Just Said Yes July 2019
Emma · on October 29, 2018 at 5:09 PM
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Don't feel guilty at all! I'm having a destination wedding myself next summer and I am actually really excited to have just my closest family and friends there who are willing to go all the way there to celebrate with us. The wedding is 100% about you and your partner.
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Crystal · on October 29, 2018 at 5:16 PM
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Don't listen to them. Sounds like both you and your fiance want the same idea! It's your wedding and you're not asking for gifts. You're even hosting dinner & breakfast! If they can't afford it, they can RSVP no and have a nice dinner with you both at a different time.
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on October 29, 2018 at 5:22 PM
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We did a DW but due to costs (for us & guests) we cut our guest list to 15 and hosted a local reception three months later for 50 friends. Is that an option? DW for immediate family & a few friends, then reception later back home (can be cake & punch, brunch, or dinner & dancing—whatever you wish).
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