I have yet to post on here for any advice but I have really gotten myself into a pickle. My Fiance and I have decided to do a destination wedding in Jamaica (8/28/2020) and because it is a destination wedding we did not want to have many people. By not many people I mean our parents, siblings, my grandparents, and a couple very close friends. This was our plan, insert FMIL who stated "you have to still invite everyone you would have invited if it were a local wedding. No one will come so don't worry about it." Now understand my relationship with my Fiances' parents is quite rocky, we either get along or they are bringing me to tears by the things they say. So I didn't want to start anything and I listened to her and we just gave her side of the family their save the dates this past weekend while we were all at a family gathering. Well my concerns were valid and EVERY person said they would absolutely be there. His family is high in numbers and there is always drama. So my issue is a two parter: The resort charges us extra per person over 20 and will charge us an extra $2000 over 40 people as a private reception would be needed: and we did not want many of these people there and I stupidly listened to my FMIL ignoring my own thoughts and feelings about MY wedding. So I am stuck at what to do in this situation. The number of people for sure coming is already up to 35 with another 12 people who are strongly leaning towards yes. This is not including his other side of the family, or any of my family besides my parents and siblings. The number is way too high as we were shutting for 18 people. I am upset about the money part of this, the amount of people being too high, as well as their general outlook on us and the wedding. My Fiance and I have been together for 6 years and his family still does not like me and does not support us as a couple. We are supposed to be starting a new married life together and his family is only coming to support him as well as to get a vacation. They have actually stated that they will be spending 2 hours dedicated to us and the rest of their time is dedicated to their vacation. This irritates me because if they want to go on a vacation to Jamaica then they can go another time but this is for our wedding and we wanted to do things as a group. The group is far too big for this now and everyone is pretty much looking at this as a family vacation and not a destination wedding. I need help. I don't know how to approach this situation or how to resolve it. Please no negative comments, I'm already frustrated and upset.
Thanks in advance.