Destination Wedding and none of the groomsmen can make it!

Ok so now the one that CAN'T afford to come to the wedding is going to disney with his ex girlfriend! Makes sense, right?

Honestly....its not your place to tell people where, how or when they spend their money. It sucks, but this is problem with DWs and a risk you take. What business is it of YOURS if one of the groomsmen is planning a vacation and with whom he's planning it? Its not.

This is YOUR wedding. Not theirs and they are not as emotionally or financially invested in it as you are. Basically they don't care about it as much, so why should they be asked to give up or justify they what they spend their money on when its not related to your wedding? They're adults who are fully capable to prioritize and handle their own money the way the see fit. IMO, they just showed you where your wedding fits in on that list

Your FH needs to talk to him.. sorry I've always said an ex is an ex for a reason and if it's not a "destination out of the country" wedding helping wouldn't be a problem. I paid the gas for one of my BM's because I knew money was tight but she's one of my closest friends and I would have done anything to have her here. But blowing money on disney with an ex... when you made an agreement a year ago. Tell your FH to talk with him but out of experience don't pay his way... I had one other BM I paid half the dress for, yep never saw that money again I've been promised so many times for over a year now and never have I seen a penny... put you know her fake nails are taken care of every other week.

best of luck!

My FH's best friend from growing up & only non-family groomsman dropped out 2 months before our wedding too due to financial problems. FH is pretty pissed the guy is so irresponsible.

Here's the thing that is hard for people to take. He may be able to afford to come if he hadn't gone to disney with his ex-girlfriend, but you weren't the priority over that trip. And while it sucks that he waited so long, it is what it is. I instantly rankle whenever someone comes on here saying that someone could afford to do X for their wedding because they've seen them spend Y. It's not your business, and quite frankly people need to get over themselves regarding the "it's my wedding!" trains of thought.

It hurts. It sucks not to be a priority. But it is what it is. Move on.

Its not the fact that its my wedding its the fact that he's my FH's best friend and he doesn't seem to care if it hurts him that he won't be there.

You have no dog in that fight...its between your FH and his friend. Not you. Stay out of it

Thats a tough but he's not your friend you FH picked him, hes a sucky friend it happens. The last wedding my FH was a GM in back in Nov, 2 of the other GM dropped out less than a month before (granted it wasn't a years notice of the wedding either, more like 5 months). I have to reiterate this to my FH bc we are having a large WP that when you ask this ppl w/ every person you run this risk. It is one of the sad BUT VERY TRUE realities that wedding planning will show you where you stand w/ ppl and who you're real friends are