Destination bachelor expenses

It sounds to me like it's not a traditional "destination bachelorette," OP just lives far away from her friend and so that's why the price is so high, just for the travel. The friend isn't asking everyone to pay an exorbitant amount, just invited her to come from afar (which I guess ends up being the same thing, but I don't think that was the intention). OP, don't worry, only one person from out of town was able to make it to mine and we had it a week before the wedding so she would already be in town. I've only made it to one out of town bachelorette for the same reason. Your friend will understand. I assume you are going to be there for her wedding and that is what is most important. I'm sure your friend doesn't want you to go broke getting there. She probably wanted you to know in an ideal world she would want you to be included, but doesn't necessarily expect you to drop everything and come to it. I would just write her a note and say you wish you could make it and you'll be thinking of her and thank her for inviting you.

What is she planning for expenses to be $1000? I'm researching a destination Bach myself and I'm coming up with 3 nights, round trip philly to Orlando with universal two park passes for about $400 per person (5 people including me)

ETA: to actually contribute some advice to the thread.

Tell her the truth, with your own wedding planning and saving to take time off for that, as much as you want to go and love her you hope she understands and you just can't make it. I'm sure she'd be bummed missing you, but she's getting married to, and must understand the financial aspects that go into it.

BS.

Yeah, I thought about how ridiculous it is that I've even entertained this for a minute. I had a bad day. It's definitely NOT that she's being demanding, we ALL just live super far away. A trip to see her would actually cost me more. But then I realized that I'm probably not going to be able to have a photographer at my wedding (which Id love but am not willing to spend for; rather give the guests a great venue and alcohol) and our wedding jewelry costs less than 100 combined (stainless steel). people really have gotten out of hand with wedding expectations. I mean, when did it become normal to do some of this crap? I guess I'm cycling through the stages of grief and I'm in the anger stage right now.

A trip to see her costs more than 1000?! Is she in europe?

I don't think you should feel guilty for that at all do something when she gets back or before her wedding. Bachelor(ette) parties have gotten so crazy but if they can be afforded then I say go for it. Personally, when my MOH asked me what I would like out of mine I said for us to all get dressed up and go out to dance.

Also alyssa, idk airfare is different everywhere but our airfare (not including getting to from airport and overnight car parking at my "home" airport, which is 2 hours away) is RT 600-800 with tax that weekend. Not including our economical accommodations and spending money.

I agree with what a previous poster said and see if you can plan for the first round of drinks from you or a bottle of champagne. My best friend moved to South Carolina and I couldn't be there for his bday. I found out what restaurant he was at and called them. They brought him a shot and a dessert from me