Dessert Options

I think a variety of desserts is fine, but I will say as a guest I’m kind of put off by a cake cutting if there’s no actual cake anywhere to be had.

View Quoted Comment Good point. I didn't think of it like that. We just like the "novelty" of cutting the cake. Maybe we can cut a giant brownie 😝 Or offer cupcakes as an option?

This is exactly what I'm doing at my wedding lol

I think it’s fine to offer alternatives, but you could also offer cupcakes or a sheet cake for those that would prefer cake. Ultimately it’s your decision what you serve. As a guest, I would actually think a dessert bar or an alternative to cake would be refreshing.

I hate cake, never liked it. We are going with cheesecake instead.

I was also tempted to do a desert table with candies, donuts, cupcakes, etc. just so people could choose which dessert they like best. But... it's easier for us just to do a cheesecake tower.

I agree with Kourt. I think the dessert bar is a great idea and cutting a large brownie would be cute and different.

I think having desserts other than cake is fine, however I am confused behind your reasoning.

You don't like cake so you and husband are eating cake and serving other desserts to your guests.

Why have the cake at all? Cut into a brownie or whatever dessert and feed that to each other. Make sure whatever option you and your husband are sharing is available to all the other guests.

View Quoted Comment It's simply the tradition we like. We'll definitely look into another option for something to cut and shove in each other's faces 😉 I'm just not sure what'll smash the same way cake does!

PS I know a lot of people don't like the whole cake in the face gag, but we do!

Fun desserts are all the rage. I went to a wedding where dessert was a huge assortment of donuts sooo... I’d say your safe to play and have fun with what you serve for dessert.

however- I wouldn’t get a cake just to cut. It’s strange. I’d just break apart one of the other desserts to feed to your FH.

I don’t think their is anything wrong with not doing cake! I also think cutting a small cake isn’t weird as long as you offer more variety for a dessert bar than just a few items you mentioned. I would include a chocolate fountain (doesn’t have to be huge) fruits (cherry, strawberry, raspberries, etc.) marshmellows, pretzels, etc. mini or reg. cupcakes, and then maybe some mini cheesecakes or pies - all of those along with the rice crispies, cookies, and brownies. For my Junior prom (sounds funny, but we had a small class and a huge budget and I was apart of planning/decorating) we had a dessert bar that had all of the above mentioned, and it turned out awesome! The next year when we were seniors (the juniors always are in charge of decorating) we just had cake and it sucked! Our dessert bar was really cool and had a lot of variety to it. I don’t think its “cheap” at all, as long as you do more than just a few desserts - try to incorporate what you guys like best but adding a few things that your guest might enjoy even if its not necessarily your favorite. I’m pretty sure we will be doing some type of dessert bar at our wedding along with cake, because I do love cake!

There* not their, lol 🙄. Sorry for all the spelling errors, I always mess up when I’m typing in the app.

Cut something that you have enough of to serve to each guest. What that is is up to you.

We’re doing a small cake for us to have and cut. For the guests we are doing an ice cream sundae bar!

I think it’s fine. I could eat Rice Krispie treats all day

We did a cake cutting and didn’t serve cake. We had an ice cream bar and s’mores station instead.

I've been to a wedding that had a giant pyramid of gourmet donuts (which included red velvet, chocolate, and Birthday cake donut flavors, along with a few other kinds) and everyone loved it. The last wedding I went to had frosted cookies, which were all good. I also went to a wedding that served 3-4 different kinds of pies. A candy bar (where you have different jars filled with bulk candies) seems to be another popular idea. I've never walked away from any of my friends or families weddings going, "well, if I'd have known there wouldn't be cake, I'd have stayed home!" Haha. I think it's totally up to you. Maybe you can offer cupcakes as one of the dessert options for those who want cake, but if you two want to feed each other Rice Krispie treats, go for it!

Hi Morgan!

As a guest, I wouldn't think those desserts are cheap at all! Personally, all I care about is the taste. And if you're having a real baker make them, I'm sure they can jazz the simple desserts up for you! Good luck!

I think desserts other than cake at a wedding is fine, but feel like whatever the couple uses for the "cutting" needs to be one of the dessert options. If I see the couple cut into cake, I'd expect to have the option to eat cake or cupcakes. If I saw the couple cut into a pie, I'd expect that I would be able to get a piece of pie.

My aunt and uncle had a Rice Krispie wedding cake instead of actual cake. It was frosted and looked like a real cake but Rice Krispies. We are having a cake but we are also having an ice cream sundae bar!!

Cupcake smash? If that's the part you were looking forward to.