Deposits?

Taxes. We used all of our taxes. Penny crunched everything. Cut cable and Netflix we are frugal about everything. Maybe he can get a 2nd job

I got me a wedding planner from Amazon (picture i uploaded) and I looked up online "What questions to ask wedding venues". You can do everything by yourself with help. I was going to hire a wedding planner but they were all so expensive. Also some venues have their own wedding coordinator that will help you plan your wedding.

I sugguest you to get a wedding planner

Thank you ladies so much for all your advice. I sat down with my FH and he said that I need to worry about the finer details about our wedding and he said hes got the money aspect handled. He said that he did not tell the photographer about coming up with the money for her services but he said we probably will like thats a ballpark. It sucks because he doesnt want to repeatedly ask questions about different details about the wedding. Like he doesnt mind if i talk about things from our meetings at the meeting or the day after but not continuously. Hes the type of person who doesnt believe in repeating things with anything or anyone unless he ask for something that he needs a reminder to. I dont know if we will be able to come up with the money in a month but hes paying for our whole wedding and I am just going to school full time. I just hope in the next few months we will be able to put something down and lock down something. For the ladies who have suggested we push back the wedding we have pushed back already 2020 was not our original date were supposed to get married this year and pushed it back to next year. Anyways thank you for all the advice and support it means alot.

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His answer would frustrate me. "I'm gonna take care of it" with no explanation of how doesn't work for me. So you're supposed to plan the little details without knowing if you'll actually be able to afford the venue and other venues in the first place? That's not how it works.

You guys might want to think about financial counseling or even couples counseling because money is one of the biggest reasons that marriages and relationships don't work out.

Best of luck.

View Quoted Comment I have to agree with this. Money is a HUGE topic in a marriage and it doesn't sound like he's being forthcoming about where he's at financially. Especially if he tells you to start planning but cannot afford the down payment for a photographer. I'm assuming you haven't merged finances, etc. and I think every couple is different but if he is giving you a budget that he doesn't seem to be able to uphold, that is a red flag. And if he tries shutting down the conversation, also a red flag.

I would definitely hold on the wedding planning and find out what's happening financially and why you're not getting concrete answers first.

View Quoted Comment I agree. I can’t even imagine being told by FH to not worry about the money when money is everything while planning a wedding.

OP, I know you think your FH means well but let me give you an example of why it doesn’t work if you know none of the financial details. A friend of mine left her job when her husband and her began trying to have a baby because her job caused her serious anxiety and her doctor told her that wasn’t healthy if they wanted to have a child. She thought they were ok financially because her husband kept saying they were. 4 months after their son was born their house was foreclosed on because her husband stopped paying the mortgage in order to catch up on credit card bills he was racking up without her knowledge. She had no idea because he just kept saying he was handling everything.

I would hate to see you or anyone go through something like that because their FS basically patted them on the head about the finances.