Deployment doesn't understand wedding dates!

I agree with @FutureMrsP and @Ali - get married in a small courthouse ceremony before he leaves but stay with your family while he is deployed. Plan a vow renewal and/or big celebration reception for when he gets home!

Am I the only one curious how your graduating college at 18? I was graduating high school at 18

STBME--yeah I was wondering that too! I think I would wait.

In currently a military wife whose husband is deployed. Please take my advice in consideration because deployments are HARD. They are hard kn relationships. That is not ment to scare you or make you have second thoughts. I'm being honest with you.

Alot of military couples shotgun wedding it, courthouse, elope etc. Or they plan a wedding in like 2 months! Some wait till after deployment. Depends on preference. If you whole heartedly know you want to be with this man than absolutly do it! But be aware of what your getting yourself into. Nothing is normal or go's by plan in the army.

Number 2. This part is important. I fully recommend staying with your family during deployment. I say that because deployments are so hard that you need support from your family and friends. Everyone who's been through a deployment will tell you that. If your in a place you don't know and the hubby is deployed for x amount of time, it makes dwployment that much worse.

Like I said, this is feom my experience. And I hope you truly take my advice in perspective. Much luck to you in this journey.

When you marry him you're gonna go where he goes, end of story. He gets stationed in Alaska, or Germany or Georgia, you join. That's how it goes

Graduating at 18 can happen if you're in a dual high school/college program that allows you to earn an Associate's - or if you've passed enough AP exams so that you have very little left to get your Associate's.

Seeing as you're young, I'd wait until after deployment.

PP-- She's probably 19 or almost. I graduated with two Bachelors degrees at 19. I graduated with my Associates BEFORE I graduated high school.

Given you are so young I would wait. Plan your wedding for when he gets back. Also stay in Iowa. There is no point in moving out there for less than a year when you know he's going to be deployed.

I would take the advice of this group and wait to get married. Our generation wants everything now, but it'll be worth the wait. What's going to happen when you rush into marriage, then you're all alone waiting for him to return? You're probably going to have a lot of built up resentment.

Wait until he gets back from his tour, so you can have the wedding you both want to have. You will both be older and feel better about making such an important decision.

I agree with everyone else here: wait to get married. Considering your age, it sounds to me like you don't know what you are getting yourself into. No, the military does not care about personal relationships. It's notoriously terrible on relationships. If you are worried about this now, you are going to have bigger issues down the road. Deployments impact relationships very negatively.

Both my best friend and SO are 7 year AF veterans. I've been around it and I have seen a lot of adultery and attempted suicides within their military circles. Not to mention you will be worrying about him constantly if he's sent to a war zone and you'll dread the moment when someone in uniform that is not him comes knocking on your door with terrible news. I'm sorry to say that, but it's a possible reality. My SO thankfully got out of the military last year.

I'm not saying that you should not marry him at all. But just know that it will be hard. There needs to be a lot of trust in your relationship. Wait. Do not jump into a marriage for military conveniences. And you should stay in Iowa with your family when he deploys. You will need to surround yourself with your family and friends and not be anywhere you would be alone and bring you down. ETA: spelling

How long out from his return from deployment did you plan your wedding for? My husband and I are doing them same but I'm not sure how far out from his supposed return date to plan it for.

***we eloped in 2017 and are just now getting around to planning a "real" wedding with all of our family and friends

I am in a semi similar position. We are due to get married in three weeks and this week he has been told he will be flying out within the next week. We have been together long enough, I understand his job and have learn how I manage when he is away, especially when he goes last minute. I honestly did not think they would send him away last minute before our wedding day. They have said that we should have suitable insurance to cancel the wedding and they have no obligation to return him in time for it.

I purposely booked a small wedding, long weekend away with minimal people, and no honey moon afterwards as I know how his work can be. We are planning a honey moon for next year and then a bigger party the following year. I really do not know what to do? I do not want to rebook my wedding for this to happen again.