Deployment Call

I don't have any advice because I don't really know much about the situation... just wanted to say that really sucks. Also... as a woman that can't be without her FH for a day... I give you mad respect for being such a trooper about him being gone for a whole year. I would have been hot mess express at just hearing that news, let alone having to push the wedding back.

I'm sorry that happened to you ?

Are they forcing him to reenlist? What branch is he in?

Wait wait. My FH and I literally just had the same dilemma. If he was planing on getting out he should not be going on this deployment.

I'm sorry

Dont freak out because I freaked out... Tell him to talk to whoever is in charge of him. Dont cancel anything yet!

First of all, thanks to your FH for serving our country!

But I'm sorry this is all happening! Just keep in mind that it's only temporary, you have your whole lives to spend together! And you never know, things may work out in your favor. Keep your head up!

No not forcing to reenlist. So his contract states that he gets out February but they can still deployed him because he goes into the IRR which is like a bank of inactive military personnel they can still pull from if need be. He is Navy.

OP it is totally okay and legitimate for you to feel sad about all of this!! That is a completely acceptable emotion.

I would make sure everything is set in stone so you do not lose any money you do not have to!

Also - Does the cruise have to be cancelled, If someone doesn't want to lose their deposit can't they still go?

@Future Mrs. T that's what I'm thinking. When I was in the guard if my squadron had been deploying but my enlistment was up I wouldn't be qualified for the deployment unless I reenlisted prior to leaving.

Oh no! Oh course you're feeling sad about all of that! I'm so sorry that this timing was so bad!

Right. So my FH is Army reserves and his unit is set to go out in March 2018. His contract is up March 2019 and since it is up within a year, he had the choice whether to go or not. He also will be in the IRR but technically that if only pulled from for war. GTMO isnt one of those deployments where they pull from it (from my understanding.) Granted, my FH has been deployed to GTMO before, so not sure if that has anything to do with it, but since his contract is up within the year he didnt have to go. Again I would tell your FH to talk to a higher up and see whats up.

I am so sorry. I would be devastated. It is totally okay to be sad. I couldn't imagine.

Just wanted to tell you that I am sorry for your predicament. That's a really sucky one. Also, I'd like to thank your FH for his service to this country.

I agree with PP I would have him talk to his superiors before canceling everything. Also, since all of this is way out of your control often companies will waive their fees when the military is involved. Just a thought. Good luck and stay strong!

Thanks everyone for the support. I was debating on whether to post on here or not but I ultimately decided to because I don't have the energy to talk to my friends and appreciate the unbiased opinions. @Shauna that is reassuring. I know he is making calls today and his chaplain is also calling because it would leave him without someone under him. The other RP in his unit is also getting deployed. @Munchkin yes ma'am. They could still go but I feel bad having all of our friends and family book this cruise for us when they might have other things they would want to do for vacation or what not.

That's really good to know @future Mrs. T T.

Sorry to hear that! My FH was in Cuba from June 2015/June 2016. He was able to get a weeks leave, so maybe you could try and coordinate his leave for the wedding? He should try and speak to his commanders now and as soon as he gets there about this before you go any further.

Also, get wedding insurance if you don't already have it! They might be willing to push back the wedding for free knowing it's due to the military.

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I'm so sorry to hear!!!

I agree, OP, have them talk to whoever is in charge.. he shouldn't be deploying when set to get out/contract is up.

Yrs ago, FBIL was deployed 1 month before he was suppose to be out of the Army...sounds like a trend.

Sorry you are going thru this, OP.

My FH was in the army and was deployed 4 months before he was set to get out, they gave him the option of going and then flying home when his time was up or to extend (this was all if they couldn't find someone willing to take his deployment spot).