So. Right now I have THREE maid of honors, my sister, a childhood friend, and a friend whom Ive known for roughly 2 years. As well as two Matron of Honors, and One Bridesmaid.
I asked the third friend "Maid of Honor" to be a MOH when I was very drunk and totally forgot about it until she mentioned it the next time I had seen her. The only reason she really in the wedding party is because we are close with her boyfriend, who is the best man, and we hang out on a weekly basis. So it kind of made sense, well, at least to be a bridesmaid. Totally regretting that extra vodka and OJ homemade drink (heavy on the vodka LOL!).
However she doesn't exactly live up to MOH duties. She has not been able to assist with anything from the bachelorette party to the bridal shower, because she has no job or car. Totally understandable but she makes no effort to take care of herself because she lives off of her boyfriends, who has also talked about breaking up with her after the wedding. Ugh. It's honestly been so much drama, and were 60 days away from the wedding now.
She has too much anxiety to give a speech at the reception. She keeps making comments about how, oh I'll be the super drunk friend at the wedding, hopefully I don't throw up on you. The most infuriating, is that she says she won't be able to attend the rehearsal dinner or come decorate because her dad does a huge smokeout on his birthday every year, and is "scared" to tell him she can't go this year. (eye-roll)
So I have officially decided to demote her to a bridesmaid. No guilt or remorse at all. I feel like its more of a slap in the face to the two Maid of Honors and two Matron of Honors who have worked their butts off to help with planning and assisting to have her standing as a Maid of Honor rather than it is to demote her to a Bridesmaid.
Quite frankly I think she will be relieved to be a BM. Anyone else have a similar experience? Was your gal pal upset or relieved? I don't want to hurt her feelings but at the same thing I think it's the right thing to do.