Demanding an invite?

Don’t invite her if she wasn’t on your original list. FH and I aren’t inviting any “just because” guests and we feel no pressure to invite just anyone who asks.

Also if she typed that response via Facebook, I DEFINITELY wouldn’t reply or invite her, for that reason alone.

Ignore it.

Easiest thing to do... Ignore

I'm such a little trouble maker sometimes, I would reply with "LOL".

🤔😏😆 Because her comment is, let's be honest, laughable.

My FH has someone like that. She didnt make the cut (his moms best friend). 30-40% of our guests RSVPd no and she invited herself AND a plus one. I was livid but asked my FH how he wanted to approach it... was it worth the battle (for us)? Some people just need to stop assuming.

In your situation, I would prep your parents but say nothing to the person. Good luck.

OMG this has happened to me. A few people have asked me when my wedding is, and have said "I better be invited" like really? REALLY? They know they weren't going to be invited, and are fishing for invites. And it seems to be the people you haven't seen in years or have very minimal contact with. I laughed at the thought of these individuals really thinking they'd be invited. And I ignored each and every single one. Hopefully they get the hint.

I would just ignore it.

And even if you wanted to reply just tell her thanks for the support but this time around you are only having a small intimate wedding.

Surprisingly I had this very thing happen today but over texts to my mom Family friend married into our family (my mom's cousin I think?) and she has 2 adults kids. I haven't seen or talked to either kids in a few years, one I dislike greatly because she's a total B and treats her mom badly. Family friend texted saying the daughter was excited and waiting, wanting to know when her wedding and shower invitations would be arriving. Mom handed me the phone and was like "you decided not to invite her so you come up with the answer."

Ended up making it clear we're unfortunately unable to invite her since we don't have the room in the budget for the wedding. Ended up giving in, or rather my mom chose to give in, when it came to the shower but made it clear that we were doing adult ladies only (the daughter just had a baby). RSVP text came through for only one so think I got lucky.

Also had fiance's friend's fiance say we needed to invite his brother. Thought he was joking until he kept mentioning it and stating all the ways his brother would be great to have there...even his brother was looking at him like "What?...I have barely just met these people."

Planning a wedding is like running through a mine field and always coming close to setting one off

It sounds like a toss off comment. Don't take it seriously. You do not have money or room, or any interest in inviting people you very rarely see. So don't. Tell your parents, now, that if any comment as made, they need to say, sorry our kid isn't inviting you. But B & G had far too many on their list, and decided to cut out people they do not regularly see in person . Most guests recognize over 3 years is a long time .

Oh my gosh, this literally just happened to me also! Mine was from a girl I went to high school with ( Who I was friendly with, but by no means close friends), and who I have not seen in over 10 years! I was completely shocked at her ballsy demand for an invitation on social media. I wasn’t sure how to react. I first I just ignored the comment, but after thinking about it I realized I would rather just address the issue now head on, rather than let it continue to bother me and eventually pop up again in the future. I ended up privately messaging her on Facebook letting her know that, were we having a large wedding I would be happy to invite her (not true, but she doesn’t know that LOL) however, we were planning to have an intimate ceremony with only our closest friends and family. She responded with “Oh. Ok.” No idea if she is upset or not, but that is one less thing on my mind now lol

You can either invite them or not invite them. Your choice.

I agree with PPs that you should just ignore the comment, she probably was just excited for you and said the first thing that popped into her head. When I get these comments, I just let them slide.

I have had a lot of people say that to me during my planning phase. i think sometimes (especially on social media) people just like to post. I don't think she would be overly offended if you didn't invite her and honestly will probably forget about it in the next 2 years. I had some girls I worked with a few years back comment on a post of mine saying they couldn't wait to see me as a bride on my wedding day and were waiting on their invites. I just responded back and said thanks, unfortunately we are keeping is close with family only with the exclusion of the bridal party. Added bonus we are doing a DW so I have used that as an excuse in these awkward situations as well. lol

I would just ignore it. My ex SIL told my mom she couldn't wait to get her invite. I never acknowledged it and never sent an invite.

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Omg the brother one is so funnyXD . We gave all our bridal party plus ones (if they were single obviously) and one of the groomsmen was adamant to bring his brother. FH and I still think its super weird (we're really not friends with the brother) but it was an open ended invite so we are just dealing with it. lol

View Quoted Comment If there was a way to like posts I would have given that a thousand likes. People just don't get it... My mom also keeps saying its our wedding so its our decision. The only thing we disagree on is total number of people. People today can be so rude and inconsiderate when it comes to weddings.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. Congratulations and 🍀‼️