Demanding an invite?

Awkward. I would just ignore it, don't invite her. Alert your parents of the decision so they know what to say if she asks. Don't tell her she isn't invited unless she asks.

Awkward is right! I did tell my mom and she reminded me that her friend has no manners. LOL! My mom doesn't even talk to her frequently anymore, which makes it even more absurd that she'd just demand to be invited. Oof. Ok, I'll just ignore it for now. Hopefully this blows over.

Do not invite her dliberately and purposefully,

I really don’t understand what is wrong with people these days.

Just because you may know about someone getting married doesn’t mean that you should/will be invited.

It’s up to that couple to determine who they want to celebrate and share their day with.

Is there a Common Sense 101 for Dummies and Those that just don’t get it?!

I would maybe private message her, let her know that you are choosing to make your wedding more "intimate" or "close-knit" and that you guys have sadly drifted apart over the years. Then to try and make it less awkward, invite her out for coffee, and maybe you guys will reconnect and she will end up being invited! Or it will turn out like every other adult "Let's get coffee" and it never happen and you're still in the clear lol

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That's another thing - I really didn't want to say anything publicly on my post, since that will only bring attention to it.
I hope it ends up like every other "let's go get coffee"! LOL! That's great!

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Seriously! I was actually kind of taken aback when I read it. It takes some nerve to just assume an invitation!

Id also just ignore it aha

View Quoted Comment I never imagined how 🏐sy people could be until I started planning.

I’ve encountered things that would never have crossed my 🧠 to ask of someone planning a Wedding.

I’d just ignore it. If she asks you directly again sometime in the future you can say “no, sorry , __” but no reason to go out of your way to tell her she won’t be invited 2 years out in response to a fb comment.

I would just ignore it. Maybe she was just being funny. Who knows what will be by the time you send invites.

I hate that! I have had several ppl I don’t really speak to anymore say things like that or straight up ask hey am I in the wedding, or can I be, or I better be invited. I straight up just commented “ LOL, girl our wedding is gonna be really really small sorry” back on a post..Now obviously you can’t say that to someone older but I agree with everyone else just Ignore it..won’t be the first or last comment like that.

Ugh, we aren't even close to sending invites and I already have friends from high school (who I haven't seen in over three years) sending me messages saying "omg when is my invite coming?". I agree that you should just ignore it. That's what I've been doing so far lol

We had a few people assume they would be invited at the beginning. We heard everything from "I better get an invite" to "When should I expect the invitation?" or even just asking when so they could mark their calendars. I even had one woman, with the sweetest intentions, ask where we would be going dress shopping. I think the excitement gets people all riled up at first but most calm down after a minute. All those that assumed they would be attending have either changed to "I can't wait to see the pictures" or, if we're closer to them but couldn't add any more to the guest list said we would just have to celebrate together another time when we had conversations with them about why they were not getting an invite. She may just let it go. If she doesn't, then I would message her privately and let her know she will not be receiving an invitation for whatever reason you choose to offer.

To be honest, sometimes i think that people just say that. I feel like it is a common response. Well atleast that I have been noticing. I would ignore it and if she asks later on just say yall wanted to keep it small and intimate so had limited amount of guest able to invite.

Maybe keep your planning progress off of FB, and since its 2 years out, she will forget and it will be a non-issue. I keep most things off FB, and when I posted the pic I have as my profile pic, people, who aren't that close with me were asking who that was, and I ignored. If we were closer, you would already know.

I hate when people do stuff like that. Luckily I’ve only had one person assume (my uncle, and he’s cool so he IS getting an invite, and when he said it, he finished the sentence with “at least maybe” lol.) my best friend’s mom who I blocked on Facebook because of the things she posts and shares asked my mom if they (her and her husband) are going to be invited. I honestly haven’t decided if they are or not yet, but asking my MOM like that was not called for.

I personally wouldn't respond. It's hard to tell if she was trying to joke around with you, but either way it's not nice to demand an invite!

Don't respond and don't invite her. Simple! People are bizarre.

Just tell her you’re keeping the guest list very short but that you appreciate her support. I’ve had a lot of the same thing. It’s my second wedding as well, and we’ve cut out a lot of people who have subtlety (or otherwise) mentioned how they wanted to be invited. But honestly they’re just making it awkward for themselves. We all know what’s polite and what’s not, so don’t feel bad for telling her no.

I had a girl who I went to elementary, middle and high school with however, we had a few classes together her and there. She moved a few hours away from where I lived at, we were facebook friends, thats how I know but never hung out, texted or talked on the phone. She responded to a photo I posted of one of our engagement shots and said "When's the wedding? I've been looking for an excuse to come down" I had to response, just ignored it. But people can be insane!